[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 1 points 3 days ago

You aren’t broken. It sounds like a broken man raised you.

I love this. It is so true too. My father and my husband were both raised by broken men and they both rose above it. My Dad still struggles with it, but my husband has been able to forgive and move on

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 1 points 5 days ago

I watched a fairly recent youtube video podcast with a traditional porn actor and an onlyfans performer. The actor (cherie deville) talked about all the control she had, regular testing, and overall safety. The OF performer had none of that and basically described her last on camera act that devolved into SA and extortion. From that, I got the impression there is still some ethical porn out there and a lot that's not since just anyone can create and push content now.

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 18 points 2 weeks ago

The fuck with this question. My youngest is barely 31. I guess I'm dust and fading memories. I will watch my anime and horror movies and shout at the clouds with an onion tied to my belt, fuck you very much

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 17 points 1 month ago

There's 5 dogs?

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 65 points 1 month ago

Thank you for your service! (sounds sarcastic, is not)

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 6 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

It sounds like she is definitely not fat, so you can be truthful and you aren't looking for a way to tactfully say she is at an unhealthy weight. What it sounds like is happening instead is a bunch of busybodies are just stirring up trouble and trying to undermine her self confidence. If it wasn't her weight, it would be her clothes or some other body part they would criticize. (for instance they'd claim she had a weird nose or ears, I had a "friend" comment on my how my knees looked weird and knobby one time. They were and are normal knees. My grandma tried to make me feel like there was something wrong with me because my breasts hadn't come in yet. I was 12. Both of these were people "looking out for me and trying to help" - they were not. They were trying to make themselves feel better at my expense.

You need to make sure she realizes these comments other people are making are not motivated in kindness, even if they are claiming they are. Try to find ways to help her see her worth and to help her ignore the bullying comments by these people.

Because of mainly my grandma, I learned to recognize when these comments were meant to be mean and to not let let them affect my self-esteem. Instead I realized they just made the person saying them look worse.

Occasionally, when they would get a comment in about something, like a big pimple, I would gray rock it and respond with, "yeah, that happens, oh well" and move on. Learning to not give them a reaction also makes it not fun for them after a while and they find other targets or shut up.

Learning to gray rock and not internalize the crap other people are flinging will help a lot. Having someone like you that she can trust to be actually kind and honest will help her reinforce to herself that the other people are just being unkind.

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 16 points 9 months ago

What is the penalty if you are caught with a gun you are not qualified to have?

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 45 points 10 months ago

If harvested while young, soybeans can be eaten in their original state as edamane. (You can just steam the beans and eat) They have to be processed for human consumption when left to fully mature.

Edamame is extremely tasty sprinkled with a little salt, or drizzled with a little sesame oil and chili powders.

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 42 points 10 months ago

Flowers in Antarctica - added to band name list

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 14 points 10 months ago

If you replied from your phone, it's probably still in one of your hands.

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 8 points 11 months ago

I'm here and on Mastodon. I really like Mastodon. (I still have my old twitter account, but have not posted or commented for years. I never really used it anyway. Now I use it to see the occasional newsworthy linked tweet since they require a login now to view anything. I'm purposely ignoring its attempt to rebrand)

I still go to old.reddit and lurk on slow news days. But my feed isn't as robust or interesting as it was before the exodus. It's still good for historical help on certain topic. So I will keep checking it probably.

But to me it looks like Lemmy and Mastodon are getting slow, steady, but high quality growth overall. I think the fediverse in general may be the saving grace of the internet. It looks to me like the "main stream" internet is becoming one voice, much like Clear Channel taking over and homogenizing the eclectic voices of regional radio.

[-] ericatty@infosec.pub 136 points 11 months ago

Why hasn't she been arrested for public nudity, sex acts in public, and all the upgrades for committing these crimes in front of minor children?

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