cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/24360964

I started having a crush on her in the 2021-2022 school year. In August 2023, she sat next to me in math class. I began to be interested in the whole person, not just her body. Then my belief that I don't want relationships, marriage, and parenthood slowly went away, for reasons that might be out of scope for this project.

I kept on wanting to say "Hi, [girl 1]" next time she approaches the desk at the beginning of class, but I never did that. Each time she came, I gave up. I vaguely remember having a fear of how people would think of the motive or something like that. I prioritized comfort and others' perception of me too much. This will likely be represented as a heavy filter that I got rid of and is intentionally excluded in the Pansystellar Architecture.

Edit: There's stuff I forgot to mention.

• I felt a lot of regret and frustration after each time I chose to be silent. I felt so distant from happiness. This should be treated the same as any other danger. And it should be the one that's fled from. I have another experience that I would pick over this one despite the other experience being more nauseating and unfamiliar. I will describe that experience later.
• Weeks later, we unexpectedly had to change seats, and the girl was now at a different table. I felt so much regret, and I saw the problem of being slow. The way I see opportunities began to change.

Food bank only had raisins. My food stamps were cut by two thirds. Inflation is way up. Specific shortages. I asked some people around me and they're also struggling. No emergency announcements. Feels like a cover up. I heard US shale oil is peaking. All this and I live in the central valley of California, ag central. I should have food easily, instead it's a struggle.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/24342829

This is in a very early stage of development and is not designed for people who are in a relationship. I probably need to add more items. This might become a diagram.

• Prohibition of absolutely any commitment (the word "commitment" is not specific enough; maybe "exclusive attention" covers most or all cases)
• Tolerance for anything having a big influence on who I date or marry
• Fear of fear itself (applied broadly)
• Prohibition of text communication with someone who's not responding, even if I don't know the reason or whether or not there's a technical problem (this prohibition is made possible by the prohibition of commitment, the tolerance for anything having influence, and the fear of fear itself)
• Clinging instead of giving up when about to do a planned courageous task (such as saying hi to crush)
• Focus on finding natural complimentarity
• A lightweight filter that greatly reduces risk of creepiness without any measurable sacrifice (it should exclude things like "I think about you every night" and "you're cute"; but not things like "I like your hair")
• No separation between platonic and romantic (todo: make this more specific)
• Interact with girls I feel like interacting with, even if I can't put my finger on anything other than appearance that attracts me or I don't predict that the interaction will give me something other than short term enjoyment

FWIW, the community was worldnews@lemmy.ml.

I assume I was banned because I said I understood Biden opposing surgery on minors, specifically trans surgery. Although I disagreed with it.

Just caught some Olympic qualifying finals for breakdancing?! Kazakhstan versus Netherlands. They both crushed it and Netherlands won. I thought the Kazaki won the whole thing with his opening move in the final bout.

I haven't read these links yet but apparently this is the first games that will feature break dancing.

https://www.nbcsports.com/olympics/news/breaking-olympics-2024-paris-dancing

https://olympics.com/en/news/how-to-qualify-paris-2024-breaking-qualification-system-explained

I can't seem to find a video of the bout. Very cool to see breaking at the world level.

I've enjoying seeing how the games have evolved over my short life. I remember when Johnny Mosely pulled that perfect helicopter (360°) at mens moguls in Nagano in 1998 and it completely changed the sport of skiing. It launched entire categories of competitive skiing: freestyle, big air, and half pipe, eventually became Olympic events. I'm not really a big Olympics fan or anything, just wanted to share the news about breakdancing for Paris 2024. Can you believe it?

Looking for somewhere to discuss stuff that doesn't swing right or left and doesn't ban people for voicing an opinion.

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I am looking for a community to find moderators for my community and I have used several community search engines to search for communities to ask users if X community exists, but I have not been able to find any. Maybe someone in this community can help me to find out if such a community exists.

considering the current state of the world and things like the resurgence of fascism and other authoritarian ideologies, do you think there is still a chance to avoid a new world war or now is unavoidable?

With that convoluted title I'm making myself think about what we'd call the additional days on other planets or other different temporal circumstances.

Instead of ending them with -day you could end them with the planetary body name or circumstance name. Today might be Lajove on Jupiter!

These days i have had several problems with twitter, mostly at midnight, with dms not being sent and the page going down all together, is just me? No one over there seems to have noticed

Remember: be gay, do crimes

The OwOs are in the jets

The thigh highs control the nets

Always been around, always will be 😎

I encounter situations like this rather often where I am responding to a comment that contains many individual points/statements. I typically will respond with a single comment that contains a quote of each point that is being responded to with my response under neath the respective quote — and, sometimes, for added clarity, a horizontal line separating each response. For example:

Statement 1

My response to Statement 1

Statement 2

My response to Statement 2

etc.

I wonder if it would be better practice to have atomic responses to comments — create a single comment for each individual statement, i.e. spawn a new thread for each new atomic topic. This would allow scores to be representative of each specific response rather than an average of the total, and it may also help with clarity when reading through the comment section, as well as easing the creation of responses (not needing to rely on formatting so much). For example

Comment 1 in reply to comment with multiple points:

Statement 1.

My response to Statement 1.

Comment 2 in reply to the comment with multiple points:

Statement 2.

My response to Statement 2.

etc.

I know next to nothing of hiking, so I'd be interested in hearing of your trips and tips and whatever else!

My limited knowledge roughly amounts to go with someone (genuinely) experienced, have more water (and probably food) than you'll think you need, good footwear, be wary of the mystery berry, and don't try to pet/touch all the wildlife (no matter how cute they may seem).

I've been bouncing between shows lately, binged through a few or what was available anyway.

Recently it's been more anime shows, but I binged through some live action stuff awhile back like Russian Doll, was also watching some of the original Quantum Leap for a minute, some Columbo, and dove into a select few old Outer Limits episodes.

What have been some of your recent binges and bounces?

One year and 1.5 months to be more precise.

Suggest me some things I should look check out or look forward to now that I am back online.

hello,

so first of all she is hot and I have a big crush on her so much that I can't even concentrate in her lecture.

I like when she make me plea for her signature and make me realize that I will fail the semester if she don't sign on my journal. however she then signs when I beg before her.

she also forces me to be extra polite in front of her. I fucking love it!

I don't know I am just a weird person :(

full disclosure i was accidentally logged out today and scrolled for 5 minutes and it was pure pure absolute uncut dogshit i mean god awful bad. so i don't blame people. but on my account it knows what i want

I'm extremely new to this site, but have seen a lot of promising things. People here seem to use logic and common sense, instead of baseless feelings. I've also seen calling out hypocrisy and (to put it lightly) evil laws and regulations.

So you guys know how if you Boil down Twitter users, it's basically blue haired vegan feminist. Reddit users are the basement dwelling pedophiles. And 4chan are the racists.

What is the stereotypical lemmy user?

I've revised the sidebar description to try to clarify what's okay to post here and encourage discussion.

Original:

This is a community for general discussion where you can get your bearings in the fediverse, discuss topics & ask questions that don’t seem to fit in any other community.

New:

This is a community for general discussion where you can get your bearings in the fediverse. Discuss topics & ask questions that don’t seem to fit in any other community, or don’t have an active community yet.

Technically the latter sort of posts have always been welcome here, but it struck me that as it wasn't written out, some may have been uncertain and opted not to post at all. With it written explicitly, hopefully that may put those uncertain more at ease to post.

Active is admittedly pretty vague, so I'm inclined to keep things lax on that. If you find a community for something but it's not seen any posts in months, don't feel too down! Try posting about the topic here for the time being, and hopefully you may find likeminded people that share your interest.

Somehow or other this community is widely subscribed to, so more people are apt to see posts from here than smaller communities, meaning better chances of finding others to talk to.

Once you've found your peers, feel free to work out the details for starting a community and link to it from here.

Hope this helps!