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I'm gunna' start making sure of these things early in relationships and not get too invested until they pass my test. That and making sure they don't wanna' stain the world with more life.
People change over time. You can't assume people will stay static forever. The person that passes a "test" today may not pass the same test 10 years down the line. Relationships take work to cultivate, especially long-term ones.
Yes, 100%! Part of dating someone (to me) is being happy to see them grow and figure themselves out as time goes on. It does mean that certain things that you shared may not ways be the same, but a relationship is so much more than that. I also take the mindset of happy this is happening in my life now and trying hard to stop controlling the future so much when others are involved.
Making sure they won't change is part of the test.
I don't know what test you're thinking you're going to concoct that will make sure that people won't develop hormonal changes, be subject to abuse that can damage their enjoyment of sex, or just exercise free will and grow as humans over a decade, but whatever test you come up with is probably not one you should ever use on another person, comrade
You just failed the test. Movin' on to my next suitor.
We're gonna need to a barrage of tests.
edit: people change, too. then what. damnit. this is why those english ladies marry trees and bridges and stuff in the tabloids huh.
And why japanese boys marry their sex dolls lmao.
you got that backwards buddy, it's the people we want to save from this society
I don't want people to world the life with stains, yes.