I don't really like that the feminist stance on cis marriage is that women should keep their own surname rather than taking the man's (hexbear.net)

submitted 6 months ago by ProfessorOwl_PhD@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

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Why can't it be something fun like swapping surnames and then creating a portmaneau or blended name for the kids.

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[-] RedWizard@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago

"No I want to keep my name."
"What, the name you got from your father??"

I've had that short circuit a few people. Honestly though, the paperwork is a super obnoxious.

[-] PapaEmeritusIII@hexbear.net 16 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

I’m keeping my name when I get married, and if someone said this to me I’d think they were being super obnoxious.

I don’t think of it as my father’s name, I think of it as my name, since I’ve had it my entire life.

EDIT: Seriously though, why is this even something you’re trying to “short-circuit” people on? Women get enough flak for their decisions as it is.

[-] RedWizard@hexbear.net 5 points 6 months ago

I'll say you're ascribing nonexistent intention to my comment. "Trying" implies I have some goal in mind, sarcasm among people I'm close with is realistically the goal. That doesn't change the reality that on occasion it didn't give someone pause. It got my SO and I to seriously consider inventing a surname. Ultimately, my SO keeping her name was the right choice for her. Her reasons were different then yours, everyone will have different reasons. Most people assume we have the same last name at the end of the day. No one cares that we don't.