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Have you ever done the right thing, but felt like shit afterwards? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by drewisawesome14@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I just had to report something to the police that will probably end a very close friendship of mine, but it was something that was totally not okay and I had to do it. But I still feel like a piece of shit for it. Have you ever felt like this and how did you get through it?

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[-] FuglyDuck@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Okay.

you did the right thing
it’s not your fault.
I’m going to say that again: it’s NOT YOUR FAULT.

Okay. Read those again after this next part… she’s probably getting abused. Or is about to be. That level of controlling behavior is insane. It may not be physical yet, it may never get physical. But it’s likely she’s being emotionally abused and controlled.

I would definitely ask your therapist for guidance here. Or at least talk to them about it.

Despite it being awful- it’s still her choice to be in that relationship and it’s extremely unlikely anything you say is going to get her out of it; until she’s ready to leave.

It’s up to you if you want to move on from her, or try to stay “there” for her. Both paths are difficult and hard…

One. More time:

None of this is your fault. At all. There is nothing to feel guilty about.

[-] drewisawesome14@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Thank you friend

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