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I don't quite get it. Is the problem that you miss being pursued by younger people?
All the good men are already taken, the ones who are still available are single for a reason.
If you're still looking for good men at 35 you're also single for a reason
Thanks.
I mean there's plenty of reasons to be single at 35 that aren't necessarily a knock against you as a potential partner. Long term partner cheated on you, long term partner died, long term partner grew apart, active duty in the military for 18 years, maybe the person threw themselves into work and was too focused on work to date or maybe they were caring for a declining family member and too busy to date, or maybe they were going through shit and they're finally ready to date again after a lot of time healing and climbing out. You get the picture
Not necessarily. If she was an anxious attached style she'd be more likely to fall for avoidant men. She could either:
Of course you are right, she could be avoidant to, in which case hopefully she'll learn sooner rather than later that fearing intimacy and vulnerability is detrimental, and that healthy codependency is actually a thing. But it's not easy for them to do so.
I don't like to think that everyone is incapable of finding someone, people just need to figure out why. Pointing out "single for a reason" seems counterproductive and a bit disrespectful.
I think “single for a reason” is what all that attachment theory shit is trying to help contextualize. It specifically sets the context as “single for a fixable reason” if you have the courage and humility to do the work.
Is living in the forest because I'm afraid of the federal government a "fixable" reason?
no
:(
That's just being awesome...
:)
I suppose I didn't consider the act of an anxious attached falling for the avoidant attached as that "reason" I sort of chalked that up to luck.
But your right, anxious attachment tends to end up with avoidant and the anxious attachment needs to learn how to desensitize to intense passion often given by avoidants.
The anxious attached individual has a lot of work to do in regards to understanding their personal value rather than their value to others, where the avoidant has immense work to do on the value of others and the value of themselves.
Sorry you’re so incurably single you’ve latched onto dating advice thats as accurate as horoscopes.
Like I hope it gets better for you but… yikes.
It's not dating advice, it's attachment theory.
So stop treating it like dating advice you weirdo.
Ok, I'm confused - can you quote the lines that werr dating advice? In no case was I advising anyone do anything, I was sharing the information I have learned on attachment theory. Providing possible insight. That's not advice, that's processing thought.
All you did was substitute the attachment titles for astrology signs.
Attachment theory has a long history of study in psychology, and astrology is just bullshit.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/health/2024-09-01/attachment-styles-relationships-social-media-tik-tok-instagram/104279024
And you don't realise that you're applying it in an armchair psychologist fashion that has as much value as astrology?
Reason is lost on some people.
No matter the gender the issue is the same
Or we became so insecure in our previous relationship that we're terrified of meeting new people :).
Can't get hurt that way.
is the reason maybe that it's hard dating after 35 or is that only a valid excuse for women?
it's easier to blame other people than realize you aren't a catch either.
If you think the single men are bad that age, look at the women!