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... so that now I'm really getting started on the process of getting HRT, it's setting in that I'm going to have to tell my parents about it. And I'm nervous. My mom "accepts" my transness in the sense that we just never talk about it, but to get to that point meant several agonizing conversations. And I do not know if her acceptance extends to accepting the fact that I want to change my body about it. I feel like that's a part of transition that cis people often stumble on.I know I can hide it from them for a while, but I can't hide it forever. And I honestly don't know if it would be better or not to hide it, because I know that would be seen as a breach of their trust. Even me making this decision alone would probably be viewed by them as a sign of my "apartness" from the family — the fact that I didn't consult them first will probably sting. My mom definitely has some helicopter tendencies in that sense; even though I'm an adult she still makes me turn on location tracking when I go out. I feel like existing in my family situation is a game of delicately balancing everyone's emotions, and doing something like starting HRT is something that will upset that balance. And I know it's not fair to place that burden on me, but I don't know what to do to escape it.
I can't help imagining the worst case scenario in which they kick me out over this. My parents have in the past yelled at me to get out of the house. They've always regretted it after, but... idk. I don't know what to do and how to tell them. Even though I've lived pretty openly as trans for almost four years and am pretty far in terms of social transition, I still feel so lost.
fears
Your fears are valid, but in the end of the day it's what you want and your future and you have a clear idea of what you want to achieve. Personally I always expect the worst it means I can mentally prepare for any outcome, though I do hope that isn't the case for you. I would sit them down and tell them matter of fact "this is what is going to happen, this is what I expect to change and what that means going forward for me" but I know that can be hard to do.As you say you're in a situation where they can use your housing situation against you and it could go that route if they've done it in the past, so prepare for that. I would make it clear that this is going to happen without their consent, you are an adult, you can make your own choices and have lived socially as a trans person for 4 years, it isn't going to stop. (just so they know it's not a phase or some ignorant shit y'know) You need to be assertive and I know that's the hard part, I know it could upset the apple cart but again it's your happiness and future.
I know this isn't easy in the slightest, take as much time as you need to prepare and wait for the right time, I hope they'll co-operate with you
Thank you magi, this really helped.
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