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Chat, is it creepy to have a totally unjustified crush
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Falling this hard after meeting somebody once for a dozen minutes may be more indicative of other personal stuff rather than just being a "creep"
I might have terminal romantic brain
I'd understand if I was an inexperienced teen but that's not the case. I had multiple, long, healthy relationships, and I still can't handle a crush ffs
It's cool, man.
Right?! I feel we just had this discussion just the other day!
I think it might be important to separate this from "romance"
Its not really romance, just obsession
... huh??? Like I agree it's not the same thing as romance but that seems like a really pathologizing word to use for something 70%+ of people have experienced
I don't think you're using the word "pathologizing" correctly. Obsession is normal, and most people experience it. The problems come from when people mistake obsession for romance. That's the thing that would make OPs crush creepy.
Oh ok that's based actually. Most people use "obsession" in a pathologizing way which can get really shitty with people who have special interests and stuff
If you want a less pathologized term, it’s called a limerence.
which people have been starting to pathologize
Patriarchal society do be romanticising actual obsession though. Lots of love stories are about obsessional creeps getting what they look for and they lived happily ever after
And I don't think I'm obsessed, it's still just a crush. I'm paniked by the fact that maybe it's not good to have a crush after having so few interactions with somebody but maybe that's just me