I don't get why incels exist tbh when you can go into literally any kink community right now and find 5 people that want to sub for practically anyone in like 10 minutes.

It really strikes me as being at least partially self inflicted, like the sex is just supposed to happen with nothing else involved? It strikes me that there's some sort of knowledge or effort barrier that they refuse to cross or that they don't understand or mistake the correct steps involved in getting from A to B.