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One of my new friends is/was a cop. Just found out about it. I genuinely believe ACAB, and this news has me conflicted because my new friend seems really cool and super nice. I don't know him super well yet, though. He's a big part of this new friend group and I don't know how to process this and how to deal with the fact he's a cop.

I don't want to look past the fact he's a cop, but I want to stay his friend and stay in this friend group.

Any advice for dealing with this shit?

I can't talk to my therapist about it until Thursday.

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[-] Randomgal@lemmy.ca 12 points 23 hours ago

Yeah. Don't be a prejudiced asshole and see your friend for who they are. Being a cop is something they do, not something they are. Don't let hate infect you just because it's on your own side of the line.

[-] tomi000@lemmy.world 1 points 17 hours ago

Yes the two are somewhat different, but the person still chose to become a cop. Maybe they didnt know better at the time or really wanted to be a good cop, but thats part of the persons identity.

Would you be friends with a hitman? Your comment would apply the same

[-] stinky@redlemmy.com -5 points 22 hours ago

Being a Nazi is something people do, not something they are.

[-] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 0 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

~~Ye, following a particular hateful political movement so strictly you approve of murder is absolutely the same as having a particular job.~~

~~Not sure if this is needed, but yes, sarcasm.~~

editing your post then pretending I'm making a dumb comment, that's not something you see every day. Either way, I'm glad to see you change your mind!

[-] stinky@redlemmy.com 5 points 20 hours ago
[-] Boomkop3@reddthat.com -4 points 19 hours ago

Ye whatever, I'm just going to hit block and not be bothered with you again

[-] stinky@redlemmy.com 3 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

lol cya buddy. pro tip though: after the massacre of editing and backpedaling you just put yourself through I don't think your problem is me lmao

[-] stinky@redlemmy.com 4 points 21 hours ago

The irony here is killing me... For anyone who scrolled down here, the guy above me is saying that cops are NOT following a particular hateful political movement so strictly that they approve of murder. Read that again. He really doesn't understand what he just said.

[-] stinky@redlemmy.com 1 points 21 hours ago

What was the point of the sarcasm? Did it help your argument or hurt it? I'm asking why it was included because it doesn't seem to add anything which wasn't already obvious, exactly like the content of the message

[-] Randomgal@lemmy.ca 1 points 20 hours ago

Bruh. Bots running crazy on this site.

[-] stinky@redlemmy.com 2 points 20 hours ago

... Why would you accuse a bot of being a bot? .. Did you think it would get offended? Lol bruh

[-] tomi000@lemmy.world 0 points 17 hours ago

Which is the hateful political movement, being a Nazi or a cop? Cant be sure...

[-] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 1 points 17 hours ago

Nazi's started a war to enact hate crimes, cops job is to protect people. Now I know there's places where law enforcement isn't as great as it is here. But that's what it should be at least.

[-] Susaga@sh.itjust.works 1 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

Hey, you know the war on drugs? The one that overwhelmingly targeted black americans?

Also worth noting that the original Nazis were a political movement, so once Hitler rose to power, every german police officer had to align with the Nazi party. Their job was ALSO to protect people, and they used that as an excuse to target people they don't like, making up reasons for why they're dangerous.

But more specifically, the job of a cop is to uphold the law, whether it protects people or not. And it's up to the cops to decide where they need to uphold the law most, and to judge who broke it.

[-] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 1 points 16 hours ago

As I said "I know law enforcement isn't as great everywhere as it is here". Wherever you live it sounds pretty bad. But we're talking here on lemmy.world, not lemmy.usa.

And then still, it's never good to presume everyone in a particular group is bad. Usually, most people are nice, even when the most vocal and/or visible ones are.

[-] Susaga@sh.itjust.works 1 points 15 hours ago

Hard disagree. Being a cop offers a lot of power and a defence of the status quo, which typically draws in a lot of bastards. If anyone tries to speak out about the bastards, they're harrassed for not being a team player. So cops are either full bastards, enablers (which makes them bastards) or harrassed until they quit.

All cops are bastards. If you're not a bastard, you either become a bastard or stop being a cop.

[-] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 1 points 14 hours ago

I'm sorry, it's sad to see how different your experiences have been.

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