It's like a cult, they never want to actually improve or help each other, they just want to be angry and sad, and blame it all on women and minorities. There used to be some subreddits which actually was for men to talk about their lifes and frustations and people would actually give good advice instead of incel shit.

Had the same thing happen with "men going their own way" shit. Got cheated on. Got depressed. Didn't want to date or have sex. Saw the title. Hey I'm a man. I kinda want to go my own way. Let's see what this is about. Working out for strength and endurance instead of vanity? Celebrating our silly man bodies? Something positive?

Read the content. Ran away as hard as I could.

where such people can support each other without assholes virgin shaming us

The funny part is that even that much isn't true. They constantly ritually shame each other for being virgins and supposedly subhuman. You're way better off talking to normal people if you don't want to be abused for your virginity.

It was funny because I remember reading that shit and incels would make a good point about how modern dating norms suck, then they'd take a wild turn to blaming it on women. I was glad that I had already done enough introspection at that point in my life to know that kind of stuff was bullshit.

Funnily enough that's actually how the whole subculture started. A sweet and well-intentioned college student started an email chain for her and others in the same situation as her. She stopped checking in on it after some years and then... Here we are.