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What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
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I have autism and ADHD and had to really make a concerted effort to remember that traffic is other human beings trying to get where they need to go as well. This sucks but it sucks for all of us. I just try to find a speed that matches the average speed traffic is moving between jamming on their brakes and slamming the gas and just cruise slowly with a lot of space in front of me, hitting the brakes as little as possible so I just feel like I’m making my way there, and don’t have to stress about the gas/brake/gas/brake.
It just makes the whole experience require significantly less brain power and thus less stressful and has really helped me not be incredibly overstimulated for the first hour after arriving somewhere by car.
This is the secret. It doesn't cut the pain of driving completely. And it took me a long time to learn. But it improves the process. That and cruise control so I can concentrate on the road rather than the speed.
Yep our strength is recognizing things objectively for what they are (I am the traffic) and then optimizing for lowest personal effort required to solve repeating problems (commute).
It sounds so simple but unfortunately being in the car majorly sucks and can easily distract you from the goal which is not only to get through the traffic, but also to not have the worst time in the world and make yourself miserable while doing it
Oh I agree, I've been plenty miserable. Your goal is to get from point a to point b safely while minimizing personal misery and exhaustion. But be miserable long enough and you'll realize there's not much you can change about your circumstances but only how you respond to them. Optimizing for self preservation means trying not to get too angry or worked up about things outside of your control and applying minimal effort in getting the job done.
Of course nothing could cut the pain of driving completely, especially in traffic, but this method legit has saved me so many meltdowns and faux pas over the years. The funny thing about it is that you have to unlearn driving that way like you have to unlearning masking. If you drive the way neurotypicals drive, who also hate driving in traffic, how do you think that’s going to make you feel?
Also this method saves you a ton of money. It’s expensive to make your car keep speeding up just to slow it down again.