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[–] ShareMySims@lemmy.dbzer0.com 102 points 1 day ago (2 children)

In my experience that doesn't usually happen, instead they simply see the daughter as another piece of property theirs to control (which is often framed as "protect"), and draw validation of their (toxic) masculinity from (making themselves feel like "big men" by threatening to harm any guy who comes near her for example).

[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago (2 children)

This is my favorite video to help deprogram these people

While I hate living in the south there are some really cool people here. Like this dude. Thanks for sharing.

[–] ShareMySims@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That was good, as are many of the yt comments, which is unusual lol, thanks for sharing

[–] rockSlayer@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't know how they did it, but the channel has managed to create a very wholesome community for deprogramming people on the far right. I highly recommend them!

[–] ShareMySims@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I don't really watch much yt (E: but it's always good to have decent recommendations to make to those who do), but I'll give them a look, definitely made a good first impression 👍

[–] Darorad@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I'll second the recommendation, Belle (the guy in that video is Beau who used to run the channel) does a great job. Also just really good coverage of current events.

[–] erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zone 34 points 1 day ago (1 children)

yeah, they can only ever imagine wanting to protect a woman they don't want to sleep with, quite funny.

[–] ShareMySims@lemmy.dbzer0.com 31 points 1 day ago (3 children)

a woman they don’t want to sleep with,

Sadly this isn't always the case, there's often a deeply incestuous vibe (and sometimes more than that) to that kind of ownership some men take of their daughters (I don't really feel like looking through the results for this search right now, but I remember several images of men wearing t shirts saying shit like "the only one who gets to touch my daughter is me" and creepy shit like that).

There are so many different layers of fucked up to a relationship between a misogynistic man and his daughter., it really is so unfortunate, but it's just one more way in which the patriarchy maintains itself.

[–] anomnom@sh.itjust.works 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Those purity ring things with dads freaks me out too. Fucking weird.

[–] ShareMySims@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 16 hours ago

Oh yeah, those things are creepy as fuck..

[–] JustAnotherKay@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

An incestuous vibe

Not in every case, but often, the phrase "emotional incest" applies. This is when a parent treats their child the same they would a partner or potential partner. Ask me why I know about it lol

[–] ShareMySims@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago

Yup. And sorry to hear you know from personal experience.. Sending you a virtual hug.

[–] earphone843@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 day ago

There are those creepy as fuck groups where the daughters have to pledge their virginity to their fathers, too.