Imagine being married to an orange clown who never came to this realization, even though he got a daughter.
this post was submitted on 09 Feb 2025
642 points (99.1% liked)
196
2039 readers
3879 users here now
Community Rules
You must post before you leave
Be nice. Assume others have good intent (within reason).
Block or ignore posts, comments, and users that irritate you in some way rather than engaging. Report if they are actually breaking community rules.
Use content warnings and/or mark as NSFW when appropriate. Most posts with content warnings likely need to be marked NSFW.
Most 196 posts are memes, shitposts, cute images, or even just recent things that happened, etc. There is no real theme, but try to avoid posts that are very inflammatory, offensive, very low quality, or very "off topic".
Bigotry is not allowed, this includes (but is not limited to): Homophobia, Transphobia, Racism, Sexism, Abelism, Classism, or discrimination based on things like Ethnicity, Nationality, Language, or Religion.
Avoid shilling for corporations, posting advertisements, or promoting exploitation of workers.
Proselytization, support, or defense of authoritarianism is not welcome. This includes but is not limited to: imperialism, nationalism, genocide denial, ethnic or racial supremacy, fascism, Nazism, Marxism-Leninism, Maoism, etc.
Avoid AI generated content.
Avoid misinformation.
Avoid incomprehensible posts.
No threats or personal attacks.
No spam.
Moderator Guidelines
Moderator Guidelines
- Don’t be mean to users. Be gentle or neutral.
- Most moderator actions which have a modlog message should include your username.
- When in doubt about whether or not a user is problematic, send them a DM.
- Don’t waste time debating/arguing with problematic users.
- Assume the best, but don’t tolerate sealioning/just asking questions/concern trolling.
- Ask another mod to take over cases you struggle with, if you get tired, or when things get personal.
- Ask the other mods for advice when things get complicated.
- Share everything you do in the mod matrix, both so several mods aren't unknowingly handling the same issues, but also so you can receive feedback on what you intend to do.
- Don't rush mod actions. If a case doesn't need to be handled right away, consider taking a short break before getting to it. This is to say, cool down and make room for feedback.
- Don’t perform too much moderation in the comments, except if you want a verdict to be public or to ask people to dial a convo down/stop. Single comment warnings are okay.
- Send users concise DMs about verdicts about them, such as bans etc, except in cases where it is clear we don’t want them at all, such as obvious transphobes. No need to notify someone they haven’t been banned of course.
- Explain to a user why their behavior is problematic and how it is distressing others rather than engage with whatever they are saying. Ask them to avoid this in the future and send them packing if they do not comply.
- First warn users, then temp ban them, then finally perma ban them when they break the rules or act inappropriately. Skip steps if necessary.
- Use neutral statements like “this statement can be considered transphobic” rather than “you are being transphobic”.
- No large decisions or actions without community input (polls or meta posts f.ex.).
- Large internal decisions (such as ousting a mod) might require a vote, needing more than 50% of the votes to pass. Also consider asking the community for feedback.
- Remember you are a voluntary moderator. You don’t get paid. Take a break when you need one. Perhaps ask another moderator to step in if necessary.
founded 3 weeks ago
MODERATORS
Imagine realising he wants to fuck her
As he has repeatedly said.
We oughta weaponize far-right rhetoric against him and rile up his base by telling them that a Jew cucked their leader and bred his daughter, "how can he keep our country safe if he cannot even keep his family safe?" etc etc
New nickname for Ivanka: Challah
Why? She's Jewish bre(a)d
No. Their god-king can not do anything wrong in their eyes. So this would have no effect on them. But you will normalize their rhetoric with it. "See, even non-maga people say it"
He can fall from grace. Too bad he'll bring about his own undoing because we're utterly incompetent. And weaponizing hipocrisy hardly is "normalizing their rhetoric". Anyway, I'm already busy with neo-fascists on this side of the pond.
In my experience that doesn't usually happen, instead they simply see the daughter as another piece of property theirs to control (which is often framed as "protect"), and draw validation of their (toxic) masculinity from (making themselves feel like "big men" by threatening to harm any guy who comes near her for example).
This is my favorite video to help deprogram these people
While I hate living in the south there are some really cool people here. Like this dude. Thanks for sharing.
That was good, as are many of the yt comments, which is unusual lol, thanks for sharing
I don't know how they did it, but the channel has managed to create a very wholesome community for deprogramming people on the far right. I highly recommend them!
I don't really watch much yt (E: but it's always good to have decent recommendations to make to those who do), but I'll give them a look, definitely made a good first impression 👍
I'll second the recommendation, Belle (the guy in that video is Beau who used to run the channel) does a great job. Also just really good coverage of current events.
yeah, they can only ever imagine wanting to protect a woman they don't want to sleep with, quite funny.
a woman they don’t want to sleep with,
Sadly this isn't always the case, there's often a deeply incestuous vibe (and sometimes more than that) to that kind of ownership some men take of their daughters (I don't really feel like looking through the results for this search right now, but I remember several images of men wearing t shirts saying shit like "the only one who gets to touch my daughter is me" and creepy shit like that).
There are so many different layers of fucked up to a relationship between a misogynistic man and his daughter., it really is so unfortunate, but it's just one more way in which the patriarchy maintains itself.
Those purity ring things with dads freaks me out too. Fucking weird.
Oh yeah, those things are creepy as fuck..
An incestuous vibe
Not in every case, but often, the phrase "emotional incest" applies. This is when a parent treats their child the same they would a partner or potential partner. Ask me why I know about it lol
Yup. And sorry to hear you know from personal experience.. Sending you a virtual hug.
There are those creepy as fuck groups where the daughters have to pledge their virginity to their fathers, too.
Am I a joke to you?
Lot of them (at least of prior generations) internalized that misogyny and think it's their place. Disgusting to see.
Set up audio for a Bible study of 70+ year old women. Shit you not the video they were watching said "you know sometimes our moods are like the cloths in our closets"
The look in the crowd was not horror but nodding along.
The 50 sonething feminist coworker was mortified.
When I was in healthcare a co-worker and I were chatting with a patient while setting up a blood draw. She said she was in an engineering program at (local school).
My co-worker told her how brave she was because "You know us women aren't good at math."
My co-worker was a 40 something nurse practitioner with three daughters. You just know this otherwise very smart woman is going to pass that thought disease down to her kids.
Dumbass here. What does that phrase about moods and clothes mean? that a proverb ?
Like a woman's feelings are as trivial as changing clothes
Or that they need to be able to change moods at will to suit the situation, instead of being allowed to express their feelings. Ever.
Or they got plenty of em and switch em frequently.
How ever one reads the statement, it's making the connection that female emotions are something different then malr emotions and that is just silly. Its just that woman are raised to deal differently with them as men do and neither way is healthy for any of those genders.
that's the thing with hegemony. it's so pervasive in how it programs you that you don't even see it. you're not even aware there are alternatives until someone jostles you awake. we live in a patriarchal white supremacist christofascist society. the enforcers of this status quo don't all even understand that these are not genetically imparted truths inherent to our living situations, but rather social constructs enforced on us.
and i'm sure i have hegemonic blind spots too. i try my best to see out into the world and hear perspectives that aren't my own so i can have access to the full truth. i fall short sometimes. none of us can see all things everywhere. the best you can do is have patience with sleep walkers who are non violent threats, protect people from violent threats, and be open to the idea that you can be wrong, and hope that by living with kindness and compassion you can do your part to create the enlightened society we all dream of, even the christofascist followers, where all are free.
I don't have enough and I have no fashion sense? Surprisingly accurate analogy for me. /hj
I'm sure there's some context to that story.
I had that but with having an SO and realizing that all people are people with the same depth of life experience as me.