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For example I'll send an e-mail with 3 questions and will only get an answer to one of the questions. It's worse when there are 2 yes/no questions with a question that is obviously not a yes/no question. Then I get a response of

Yes

back in the e-mail. So which question are they answering?

Mainly I'm asking all of you why do people insist on only answering 1 question out of an e-mail where there are multiple? Do people just not read? Are people that lazy? What is going on?

Edit at this point I’ve got the answers . Some are too lazy to actually read. Some admit they get focused on one item and forget to go back. I understand the second group. The first group yeah no excuse there.

Continuing edit: there are comments where people have tried the bullet points and they say it still doesn’t help. I might put the needed questions in red.

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[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 132 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Considering your wording in the last paragraph, I'm going to guess that your writing style is frequently overwhelming. Making sure that questions are clearly isolated (I'd suggest using numeric lists or bullet points) makes it clear what response you're expecting.

Additionally, if you're asking several difficult questions, it's likely that people will lose the thread partway through.

[–] watson387@sopuli.xyz 59 points 4 days ago (3 children)

This. It's pretty common in my industry for people to either copy and paste your bullets into their reply and put their responses directly after each or edit your original email in the chain with the answers in red below the bullets.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 20 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I work in text.

You can keep your infix replies and fancy colors. I want my replies to look like forwarded email as per rfc1855.

[–] jagged_circle@feddit.nl 3 points 4 days ago

If you put it in red, loads of people will read it in black. Dont use html.

[–] scytale@lemm.ee 5 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Same. At my work and everywhere I’ve worked, almost everyone responds like that to emails with multiple questions in them. It’s either OP’s workplace is an outlier or his formatting isn’t conducive enough for people to respond appropriately.

[–] faltryka@lemmy.world 23 points 4 days ago (1 children)

This is what I was thinking too. Failure to exercise brevity is the leading cause of people not having the time for your email.

[–] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Failure to exercise brevity

That's a wonderful wording!

Yeah that’s gonna become part of my vernacular.

[–] Pamasich@kbin.earth 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Considering your wording in the last paragraph

I'm really confused by people's reaction to OP here. I agree that I personally don't share OP's experiences, but what's wrong with that last paragraph? It's not overwhelming at all, so how does it indicate that their writing style is overwhelming? (I know MINE is, no need to point that out)

If people have trouble understanding it, then reading comprehension must really be at rock bottom.

I agree that formatting is important with l proper text length, but this is literally two lines, this isn't in need of bullet points.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 5 points 4 days ago

If people have trouble understanding it, then reading comprehension must really be at rock bottom.

If 90% of people have bad reading comprehension then it doesn't do much for anyone to point that out and stick to the way you are writing instead of making it understandable to everyone.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 days ago

OP's last paragraph contains three question marks and essentially one question - the first is their actual question with the following two being escalating statements. If you threw this into a work email with five other questions some people's brains would seize up and just refuse to answer more than one question because they're not certain if there are six or eight genuine questions.

In life and especially a professional setting we're interacting with people in the top 1% of communication skills... and the bottom 25%.

[–] someacnt@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Not OP, but I experience difficulty articulating what I mean while staying formal. How to improve?

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 days ago

Bullet points. If you don't have a rapport spell things out paragraph style and then finish the email off with something like this...

So considering the above I'd like to get your opinion on these points:

  1. Do you think the widget should be blue or orange?

  2. Given the expected market impact do we want to bring in PR for our e-widget announcement?

[–] andrewta@lemmy.world -4 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I'm sorry but there is no difference between putting them in bullet points, or typing like I did. People need to learn to read.

Side note :

I've tried bullet points.

I've tried putting multiple return carriages between each question.

I've putting all the questions end on end

and it makes no difference end result is the same.

Add in a lot of the other comments saying they have the same problem it isn't just me

[–] meyotch@slrpnk.net 12 points 4 days ago

Your own report suggests there is a difference. People aren’t answering your questions. You do not have their attention apparently.

The burden is on you to get your questions answered. Other people have other concerns. Like it or not, you have to do the work of getting these answers. You may need to have a conversation instead of a list of demands.

Perhaps try an email thread instead of a single monolithic email?

Open the thread with a single key question. Listen to their reply. Does your next question still pertain? Then ask it in your reply.

People are not vending machines that contain answers you must shake out of them. A proper relationship, even if just email, is still the best way to achieve your goals.

My two cents as a person who experienced such frustrations early in my career.

[–] Bob_Robertson_IX@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Try being more direct, you can still write out your whole email with the full description, but put in a section somewhere that's easy to see that's labeled as "QUESTIONS" and then enumerate the questions you want answered. I often will have the whole section bold and further highlight important words in red. This makes it easier for people to answer inline on the reply and helps ensure questions weren't missed.

The truth is, most people don't like the 'email' part of the job and may only check it once or twice a day and I'd most likely just skimming through several messages and not fully devoting much time to each message. By making it easier for them to reply you end up with a better result.

You can also use this when you expect someone to take action from your email. Let them know precisely what you want them to do, and make it very easy to find 'The Ask'.

EDIT: Or, you can just downvote any comments that actually offer suggestions and stay of the opinion that everyone else is wrong and only you are correct.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 3 points 4 days ago

People need to learn to read.

But it seems you're the one having the issue. Rather than hoping people will learn to read better it might be a better option to write in a way that caters to those bad readers.