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[cw: body shaming maybe] How do you talk to your friends who are worried about their body shape (hexbear.net)
submitted 10 months ago by ButtBidet@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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Friends sometimes complain that they're too big, too short, too tall, etc. I think they're all fine, and want to let them know that. My problem is that I'm a middle aged guy and and I don't want to give off any whiff that I'm flirting with anyone. I just want to tell people that they're perfect and good the way they are. Are there safe ways to say it?

I feel like this is a thing that easier to do if you're a woman? (sorry if I'm wrong)

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[–] Riffraffintheroom@hexbear.net 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Just don’t say anything unless they bring it up? Like if you say something about your body is aesthetically bad, there’s three ways another person can respond. Either they agree, disagree, or don’t really engage, using blow-off language like “that sucks”. Disagreeing is obviously the least weird option, as long as you’re using normal language and not using words like “succulent” or something. If someone brings up something bad about their body and someone else disagrees in a normal respectful way and then they get uncomfortable, that’s their own social fuck up.