How's the family?
this post was submitted on 03 Aug 2025
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We had our first case of one of the kids running off in a department store and needing to find them.It got us talking about 'Stranger Danger' and who the best people to approach are when you lose one of your parents. I've been thinking about it and I don't like the traditional stranger talk, because it tells kids to work off the assumption every adult they don't know is going to steal or abuse them.
We can't really tell them to look for someone in uniform at Kmart because they don't wear uniforms here anymore. I ended up finding him in the toy section, so maybe arranging a spot to find them if they get lost is the easiest way. If I tell them to go to the toy section if we get separated I know where they'll end up, it's one part of all the stores they'll know where it is, and it can help them fill in time until I get to them.
That’s absolutely the right move. In abuse prevention in the US, they use the term “safe adult.” And having these conversations regularly about who is and who isn’t a safe adult is very helpful. Here’s some helpful info
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https://mbfpreventioneducation.org/safe-adults/Thank you, this is really helpful. I don't want to try make my kids scared of other adults when they're statistically not the people they should be worried about.
You got it. I used to teach this stuff. Lemme know if you want any advise about how to explain who sage adults are.
My girlfriend works in childcare so I hope we'll be able to discuss things from here. I think we agree on most things, it's just about going over the particulars