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[–] Skyrmir@lemmy.world 5 points 4 days ago (4 children)

Only speak one sentence at a time, and repeat the experiment.

[–] growsomethinggood@reddthat.com 31 points 4 days ago (2 children)

And we see no irony in going into a women-only community, making assumptions about how a woman speaks, and telling her to try talking less?

[–] JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I confess I'm a woman who became interested in the community "Dull Men's Club" because sometimes people just wanna post mundane photos & talk about mundane things, but for some reason it's a "men's club" so I'd lurk without posting or commenting. Then a few weeks later I found the "Dullsters" community which is probably a better fit. 😄

[–] growsomethinggood@reddthat.com 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I think that's a reasonable approach! This community specifically asks men not to comment or post so it'd be great if they decided to listen like that instead!

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

It's unfortunate we only see the obnoxious dudes. I bet there are wonderful people listening on the sidelines, respecting our space.

[–] JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 4 days ago

Seems logical since only obnoxious people disregard rules in life. And unfortunate they're the ones we hear the most because they're the ones who make themselves heard.

[–] Skyrmir@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 4 days ago

What happens to men who post here has been well documented. There have been hundreds of good peer reviewed studies with large sample sizes that all show exactly what happens. This is not an area that needs further study.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 22 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Oh hey, another dude barging into a women's space to tell us to shut up. Did you not like the picture because you're in it?

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

The upvotes we see on this shit show how many guys let us and our comm live rent free in their heads. Rather chivalrous in the current economic climate

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

No kidding, probably the same ones who call us misandrist. I'm surprised to not see many downvotes on them.

[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Blahaj blocks downvotes. Many of the regulars here cannot downvote, or see downvote counts. I don't think downvotes particularly meaningful here for that reason.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 4 points 4 days ago

That's fair. My downvotes are rare and meaningful to me.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 days ago

It would be more revealing to repeat the experiment with an equally verbose man.

[–] ValiantDust@feddit.org 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] ValiantDust@feddit.org 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] ValiantDust@feddit.org 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I think this would make a meeting very tedious.

[–] ValiantDust@feddit.org 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Imagine someone explaining a complex topic in single sentences with pauses in between.

[–] ValiantDust@feddit.org 7 points 4 days ago

Is that what you meant?