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One of the techs at work is a negger and it's very strange. Well, maybe not quite a negger, but just an odd cat. I went into the kitchen to throw my banana peel out and he says "what, no coffee? Come on Spin...." or I was working with a machine the other day and he just walked past and whispered "omg you broke it".
Most oddly, last week I was cleaning something and it made me gag (it was just mud) and he started goading me on to make me vomit. I had to run away!
Sounds like an obnoxious dick who will pretend he was only trying to be funny if confronted. Is he doing this to other people or just you?
Things like this make me so very very glad I'm ASD because this man would have been hit with so many **"What the FUCK"**s he would have fled weeing his stupid little pants.
confront directly about the negging
it could be a bad habit or he could be a dick
Either ZERO people skills or actively hostile. That's not odd, that's diagnosable. And creepy.
To play devil's advocate, perhaps he thinks he's being playful? Like, banter or something. At least, that's my experience when I have confronted ex-colleague about the same behaviours. Then again, those types are often very good at feigning ignorance ๐คทโโ๏ธ
On the other hand, it isn't funny if only he is laughing y'know. For something to be genuinely funny, the subject also has to find it funny. Otherwise it's bullying.