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[–] FistingEnthusiast@lemmy.world 55 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

A trans woman I know was quietly thrilled when she was out with her girlfriend and some bogan pieces of shit drove by and yelled "Lezzies!" from their car

Obviously pissed off, but any silver lining...

Edited to trans woman from transwoman because terminology is different in different places, and lemmy is still basically 'Murican

Don't punch an ally, people. If my original post made you think I'm one of the pricks, then you're playing into the hands of those would divide us to destroy us

[–] sylveon@piefed.blahaj.zone 40 points 1 day ago

There's actually a word for this: ewphoria (or ewwphoria)

[–] programmer_belch@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thank you for the anecdote fisting enthusiast

[–] jballs@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 day ago

Plot twist, they were the one yelling "Lezzies!".

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ewwphoria

Also, it's trans woman, not transwoman.

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Question if I may, what's the difference, besides spacing?

[–] cloudskater@piefed.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I am wondering this too. I'd never type it as one word, but that's just BC I think its grammatically incorrect.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 15 points 1 day ago (4 children)

@birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone and yourself, it's about the difference between nouns vs adjectives. Grammatically, transwoman is a single noun, while trans woman is an adjective and a noun. You might not have noticed the distinction, but your brain did. Trans women are women because the noun is the same. Transwomen aren't necessarily women, because the noun is different. Being a trans woman doesn't mean you're some other woman-like thing, it means you're a woman who happens to be trans. The grammar is important because it shapes your perception in ways you might not even notice as it's happening.

I'm an anarcho-antirealist, which means I'll admit that our subjective consensus reality is constructed by the dominant culture. That's a racist, sexist, queerphobic, capitalist, statist culture. And it denigrates trans people in invisible ways, turning public perception against us, through our very language. Language shapes subjective reality. In order to have a free and equal society, we need to take back control of the means of perception. We need to understand and master the way language shapes subjective reality, and take the magic for ourselves. Share the magic with our fellow workers, so we can build an unreality together. That's a subjective world which doesn't call itself objective, doesn't call itself real. Instead, it welcomes change and reinterpretation to suit the needs of its people. We need to make perception a democracy, instead of the corporatocracy it is now.

[–] cloudskater@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 14 hours ago

Hey, I totally agree, thanks for the explanation!

I hope I didn't come off insensitive, I wasn't intending to brush off any potential, genuine issue there may have been with the term. ^^'

[–] NightFantom@slrpnk.net 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Transwoman, like transatlantic means beyond the atlantic (ocean), means beyond woman.

Trans woman means "trans[gender], and also a woman".

[–] cloudskater@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 14 hours ago

That's a really consise way to show the difference, actually. I like it.

[–] HeartyOfGlass@piefed.social 7 points 1 day ago

TIL! Thanks for the explanation