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[–] Doom@lemmy.world 32 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I don't mind having a conversation about stupid bullshit, I love those. But I do hate having a superficial conversation filled with lies and obfuscation about meaningless topics neither of us care about solely for the sake of filling the silence. It's a waste of energy and time.

[–] UnrepententProcrastinator@lemmy.ca 2 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Then bring your A game to every conversation. Most people are interesting, they just need steering towards their subject of interest.

[–] Doom@lemmy.world 3 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Oh my sweet summer sunshine. It's not other people's jobs to do your emotional labor for you.

[–] GiveOver@feddit.uk 3 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

You're kinda confirming my pet theory that the "I don't do small talk" people are all cunts

[–] JigglySackles@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

I'm in the "no small talk" camp. I at least try to not be a cunt at first. But I have no problems firing back.

I imagine many people in the group though just really don't want to be bothered and being sharp with someone is usually a fast way to end that bother. They may not be cunts on the regular, they may just not want to be involved with the other person.

I agree that the other person was being cunty though. That condescending "sweet summer w/e" shit is rude af unless it's done to be silly.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 0 points 11 hours ago

Some people make it into a personality trait, definitely.

[–] UnrepententProcrastinator@lemmy.ca -1 points 17 hours ago

Nobody's expecting you to. But I'd fell like you're missing out on the human experience.

[–] starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works 1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I think you have to be pretty open to new things for this to be true, a lot of people will shut down and think certain topics are boring, art for example. You kind of have to force yourself to find those things interesting for a while before everything seems interesting.

[–] UnrepententProcrastinator@lemmy.ca 1 points 17 hours ago

I don't know my experience is everything is interesting if someone is passionate about it. It's mostly my fault when I'm only waiting for my turn to talk. (Mostly the reason is I'm forgetful and if I think I have something good to add I'm afraid I'll forget it)