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What sort of personality would you call this? (piefed.social)

submitted 2 days ago by CptHacke@piefed.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Throughout my adult professional life, I've encountered people who have a (to me, at least) very curious way of interacting with other people. They look at individuals as 'resources' and relationships as 'transactions'. Picture a spider's web of contacts where 'Bob' is replaced with 'has tools I can borrow' and 'Melissa' is replaced with 'can get me into my favorite club without a cover charge'.

I'm trying my best to articulate this. It's like these people only create relationships based upon what material gains it can offer them. They aren't really interested in the PEOPLE so much as the ADVANTAGE a relationship with them affords. Does that make sense?

Now to me, this is very bizarre. I just don't think this way, but I'm told that it's quite common - almost 'the norm'. Is this true? If so, I'm really bewildered by it. What do y'all think?

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[–] plutopos@lemmy.zip 1 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (1 children)

As a teenager, I could sense some people only hung out with me because they could speak about certain interests they have. I was hoping it'd be different in adulthood

[–] 1D10@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago

I've noticed that kids become adults, and a lot of them stop growing emotionally just after puberty, I have a fake face book profile that I occasionally check up on the people I grew up with, every one of them is exactly the same as they were at 18, they even were the same clothes. The only thing that has changed is there is a lot less hairspray and several of them are dead. They even all meet up every 4th of July, they invite me to it at every funeral I attend.