Ask Lemmy

I just want to say that I appreciate this post so much. I really feel you about the emotional resistance to exercise and how big an obstacle it can be - people don't talk about it enough. I was bullied a lot in gym class/group sports too, and was in a relationship for a long time with a partner who was very critical about my fitness. Just thinking about “getting exercise” can trigger deep anxiety that makes it feel impossible to get started. It’s a thing I still struggle with.

I second what others have said about starting by looking for opportunities to incorporate movement, rather than setting out saying “I am about to go get me some EXERCISE.” And starting very very gradually. For me, I anticipate the feeling of failure with exercise, so it’s been really important to start with something that feels almost too easy, just to be able to say “I did it.”

A couple things I have learned/try to practice. Some of them sound v cheesy, but have helped me.

1. The first goal can literally be - put my running shoes on. Once the shoes are on, I’ve gotten the process started and almost always just go for the run/walk. But it’s important that it be okay if you don’t, too. The goal is just to put the shoes on.
2. I have found it helpful to listen to guided run recordings or podcasts. It’s literally a lil voice in your ear reminding you to take it easy, and that you’re doing great for just starting.
3. While on your walk/run/bike ride whatever, think about all other people in the world who are also on their first run, or second run or wherever youre at. I find it much easier to cheer for other people. Then I can turn it around and cheer for myself too, once I’ve got those good feelings started.

Anyway. I hope this is helpful. Thanks again for your post. I’m cheering for you and me both!