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Online or offline. News keeps reporting about loneliness and disconnection, but in my experience it's just that it's harder to interact with people in a civil way because they are so hostile, angry, and arrogantly convinced their viewpoints and experiences are the only legitimate ones.

Not to mention the lack of civility towards servers and other service workers. I can't recall if I was just indifferent 10 years ago, but on a almost daily basis it blows my mind how openly rude many people are to servers and such, which seemed like a much more rare thing when I was younger.

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[–] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Yes. Up to 2019.

Covid messed up human interaction on a level never seen before. And the most horrifying thing is how many people seem completely unaware of this.

I have realized that my ability to navigate a conversation has gotten a bit scrambled since COVID. We still make it through, but we're going to have people calling me 'eccentric' when I get just a bit older.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Maybe. I can say that I just don't want to socialize much anymore because it's just... not fun anymore. It used to be fun... but now it's mediocre and disappointing at best.

I seem to no longer be able to have fun and engaging conversations with folks, even when we have mutual interests. And when I try to engage with them in the way I did pre-covid they just respond with hostility or disengage. If I keep thing surface level and talk in a lot of cliches, however, they seem to enjoy that.

I don't think I've had a talk with any depth with a stranger since like 2018, specifically. Not that it was common, but it was more common and more pleasant and folks seemed to be willing to make an effort to know you rather than basically looking to dismiss you or label you as soon as possible.