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I get some of the fluff. I like protocols that can safely establish expectations. I just don't like pleasantries that enforce affective compliance and ultimately stifles protocols or just throws off procedure. Or when my movements and expressions are being surveiled and over analyzed - not enough smiling, holding my body wrong, not enough certainty in how I feel, not enough expression, too "stubborn" to communicate. Everything about neuronormativity feels like a distraction to me, and vice versa my concerns seem irrelevant or unrecognizable to them.
It's never been clear to me that neuronormaltive folk are always the perpetrators. I think NDs are also have very triggering behaviors that are difficult to reconcile, even if on a deeper level there is a kind of kinship that can be recognized.
I also find ND culture to be upsetting at times. Too many infantile "cute" "quirk" tropes. I'm not quirky, if anything I am serious as a heart attack most of the time. If I'm supposed to be quirky and I'm mostly just really serious then it doesn't end super well.