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My experience is that there are a lot of people who tell you "how it's done" and they get very weird about the rules. I understand that comes from their experiences and the general aversion of wanting to not be associated with "poly couple hookup types" you see on Tinder or wherever.
I am poly, but typically just date solo. I've joined poly couples as a third, but it's never really felt right for me; I don't like hierarchical dating.
My dream relationship is a triad, but my god is that hard to find. I just want my little throuple commune in the woods. :3
I was sort of in a throuple once and it turned into a huge disaster lol. Also didn't help that we were all living in a 2 br house with 5 people and a dog.
Yeah I did a tried and it blew up. But triads are like that. They're really good when they're good and they're a disaster when they're not going well, unless you're really good at relationship skills.