I see that as a bullshit copout for people that don't want to care about people. Some of the nicest people I know are neuro-divergent, they just need to put a little more effort into figuring out what effects their actions have.

Just because you lack empathy doesn't mean you don't, or can't, care about people. It just means you don't have an automatic, involuntary response to other people's emotions. You can still care about people and desire good outcomes for them and want your actions to be positive for other people.

Neuro-divergence that reduces, or eliminates the capacity for empathy makes that harder because you don't get that immediate feedback, you have to figure out if what you're doing has the desired effect in other ways. Which makes it harder, but not impossible. And definitely doesn't prevent you from wanting to do it in the first place.

If you don't care about other people, you're just an asshole. Stop blaming it on neuro-divergence.