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I don't get it, why wouldn't they want their partner to say nice things to them?
self hatred does things to people
I hate myself so I'm well aware, that's why I want someone to say nice things to me.
some people want it but also can't handle it because they don't believe it
We just gotta keep whispering "You're worthy of love because you are love" over and over until they internalize it.
I appreciate your candour about how you feel about yourself, because I am also someone who struggles with self hatred and craves affirmation, so seeing comments like yours gives me a nice sense of solidarity.
We're our own worst critics. We need to try to remember that.
Compliments make me uncomfortable because I only really recieved them when I was quite young, so I have a habit of associating compliments with being a child. So compliments make me feel infantilized.
I also struggle with self-worth, so I also often times feel like I am undeserving of compliments. This causes me to not trust compliments as being genuine. I have a bad habit of assuming compliments are backhanded or are manipulative, or just overall just not genuine.
What the hell, this is exactly how I feel. I don't have a partner though so I don't know how I'd behave in this case. I hope that, if I ever find someone, I can at least trust them enough to not question the sincerity of their compliments.