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Many times when people like that surpass me at test scores or job positions or are fitter than me or have friends while I am friendless, it makes me feel terrible.
in capitalist society, reactionary pigs are the ones getting ahead. we are marginalized.
This makes me wonder many times how will we win, when these are the people with the power and the intelligetsia is working over time for them
Their system is not functional and destroys itself by its very nature. Everything they do is a fortress built on sand in the long term.
i ask myself this question every single day. i think there's a lot of darkness to be had still.
It’s not you, those environments encourage constant comparison and that can make anyone feel awful. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that
I console myself (cold comfort) that chuds don't make friends. Their close acquaintances are measuring sticks for their success in life, when they get together they essentially flex and dick measure, see who's pulling ahead/falling behind, who knows more about x topic or show, who's going to nicer brunches or whose rennos are almost complete.
I have never walked away from a conversation or catchup with chud friends and felt like I connected on anything other than the most superficial levels, and it actively discourages against it. Pathos is seen as weakness or pretentiousness.
It's tiring, it's constant macro and micro comparison and triangulation so that every individual can walk away and say they're superior in something. It's all the trappings and motions of friendship without any of the motive and it is as hollow as a job interview with mimosas