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I console myself (cold comfort) that chuds don't make friends. Their close acquaintances are measuring sticks for their success in life, when they get together they essentially flex and dick measure, see who's pulling ahead/falling behind, who knows more about x topic or show, who's going to nicer brunches or whose rennos are almost complete.
I have never walked away from a conversation or catchup with chud friends and felt like I connected on anything other than the most superficial levels, and it actively discourages against it. Pathos is seen as weakness or pretentiousness.
It's tiring, it's constant macro and micro comparison and triangulation so that every individual can walk away and say they're superior in something. It's all the trappings and motions of friendship without any of the motive and it is as hollow as a job interview with mimosas