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Why does every married man I talk to about marriage benefits seem to feel that staying single is better? (sh.itjust.works)

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[–] plateee@piefed.social 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Are you in IT? I swear, every conversation with a male, married coworker is the same:

bitching about their wife
complaining how they can't do anything fun since getting married
weird jokes about nonexistent sex lives

My dudes. I've been married for nearly 20 years now. Our sex life changed as we got older but it's still banging. I play video games with her, she laughs at my jokes/memes. I can't imagine either being alone or with someone else.

[–] skankhunt42@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yep, I'm a Linux Sysadmin/DevOps and married a developer. Your experience is the same as mine as all my friends are IT also.

We don't play games but we do fun shit together. I self host everything and she adds on to it. Almost all our smart home logic is hers. Aside from tech we are completely different people too so a lot of the time is spent doing our own thing happily together in the same room.

[–] wildbus8979@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago

We're both devs, but I'm the ops also and the one with 25 years of *nix experience. She loves the smart home setup (I started back on X10!) but I can't convince her for shit to contribute and it does bother me. And yeah I've communicated that, the logic/automations is also what I would love to offload.

In an otherwise happy marriage is definitely a pet peeve of mine.