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I went to restock on my pitstick and I struggled to find it due to the redesign

I couldn't help but laugh when I saw it as it now looks so damn similar to one of friend's suits

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[–] blazeknave@lemmy.world 21 points 1 day ago (3 children)

As someone who gives less fucks with each passing day, I fuck with Scentbird. After decades of masculinity and musk, I now combine those with florals, feminine perfumes, and shit.

I've gotten more positive feedback from the moms at school pickup, than I ever did just wearing cologne. Like standing there at the edge of the group, "what's that smell? It's kinda floral but not just that? That's amazing!" chatter, and I gave them my wrist to check, and confirmed.

Wasn't this the point of CK One?

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 5 points 20 hours ago

most people LOVE a man with some femininity in them

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

NGL finding deodorant that doesn't smell awful is kinda hard for me. My sense of smell is easily my most sensitive sense which makes a lot of things really overwhelming. (So many new things I buy need to be left to air out for a day or more before I can use them)

Especially if it's marketed to men. So many men's products have smells like "Smoke, tobacco, whisky, etc" and I'm just sitting here going "I don't want to smell like shit, I wanna smell nice"

This one though IMO is one of my favorites, it smells nice and fruity and it's not over powering. It's subtle.

And it plays really nicely with my shampoo and body wash.

Wolfthorn is straight up delicious.

There was one time, specifically, I'd lied down for bed, post shower, arms raised fully above my head, arched back, presenting, and I thought to myself, "what thE FUCK SMELLS So good?!" And it was me. And it was a great feeling. It was citrus.

[–] SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Fuck yeah, rock it. I am a naturally very manly smelling person, sometimes to my dismay, so I always stayed with scents that "matched": cedar, sandalwood, rosemary, juniper, bergamot, and the like. I often smelled like a lumber mill or a very conversational pot roast.

I got a scent sampler pack from Boy Smells a bit ago and I get so many compliments from others when I wear them.

[–] HerbalGamer@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

conversational pot roast.

I wanna see that OldSpice

Pot roast smell, just musk and a little rosemary essential oil, was my single times secret weapon. People asking about it was a zero effort conversation starter and it dovetails perfectly with my style of attempts to be charming.