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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:
- Both “200” and “160” are 2 minutes in microwave math
- When you’re a kid, you don’t realize you’re also watching your mom and dad grow up.
- More dreams have been destroyed by alarm clocks than anything else
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Short answer, no. I know several people that are narcissists and they don't get better over time. In fact I think they've gotten lot worse. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist and perhaps thinking this person may get better over time, I have a bad news for you. No. Most definitely won't. No amount of therapy will "fix" narcissism because for any behavioral therapy to work the person first has to admit they have a problem and want to get better. Narcissists are simply incapable of doing just that. Only solution is to remove narcissist from your life. Do it as soon as possible. Yes, I'm speaking from first hand experience.
Speaking from personal experience, that's simply not true. Narcisism is a mental disorder just like any other and can be treated with it's own form of therapy. You are right that it can be difficult to treat as the onus of understanding falls on the patient choosing to want change in their life which means they have to admit they are wrong. That's not impossible at all though and many full on narcissists often have a eureka moment when their cognitive dissonance can't write off an event. On top of that, hormonal changes through life can also play a big role with many people literally growing out of it with different stages of life. Lastly, it's often adopted by people as a trauma response, meaning that fixing the traumatic stimuli can lead to lessening narcissistic tendencies.
I personally was raised to be a narcissist, lived only with narcissists, and still have narcissistic tendencies that spawn from formative points of trauma. My moment was finding myself alone with a kid I never wanted to have and realizing that I literally had no one in my life to blame anymore. When you put yourself on an island alone so other people can't fuck up your life anymore only to find out your life is still steadily fucking up on its own, it's hard not to realize it's actually you. Couple that with the pressures of parenthood, hormonal changes that no one warns men about, and the realization that I was going to do to my kid what was done to me until he found himself on that same island at 21, I decided to take drastic action.
It's been a decade. I compartmentalize by joking that I killed that person and took his place. I still occasionally slip, I have a hard time being corrected by people I don't respect, I instinctually judge things I don't like as inferior, and I'm sensitive to people blaming me for things, but all of these are now within normal human response levels instead of where I was. Having that kid taught me a lot about empathy. I'm a lot more understanding of people because i realize threat people that aren't exactly like me aren't just idiots and fuck ups.
Narcissists are people and nobody is incapable of change.