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It's something I struggle with. Some bad news comes out about some public persona doing something shitty and they get cancelled. But sometimes I really struggle with giving up the things they've made because I like them. There are also occasions where the person has been accused of something and it doesn't seem true to me, or I think they're genuinely sorry and have been punished enough, and the context isn't being considered.

What do you think? Who do you feel conflicted about enjoying?

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[–] Bristlecone@lemmy.world 54 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (7 children)

Neil Gaiman. I'm extremely depressed that he's actually a POS, and because I loved his work so much, I'm conflicted. His work itself seemed to have well interrogated values woven into it's fiber, but I guess you never can tell.

Edit: really fucking bummed about Red Hot Chili Peppers too

[–] FreshParsnip@lemmy.ca 3 points 18 hours ago

I have a theory that all writers are somewhat hypocritical. As an amateur writer myself (I write fan fiction and am also working on original work I hope to get published eventually), I find sometimes the moral messages I try to weave into my work are sometimes messages that I myself am struggling to live up to and writing is a way of trying to work through that

[–] UsefulIdiot@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 day ago

This broke my damn heart. His work seemed to have the values I hold dear and be so insightful and then… he’s getting in the bath with girls who depend on him for housing.

I am thinking that power corrupts. I came up with that but you can use that phrase if you want.

[–] agent_nycto@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago

Same with his ex? Wife Amanda Palmer. I love the Dresden Dolls and she's been very inspirational but knowing she was in on it was fucked up.

[–] yyyesss@lemmy.world 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

man, this was the worst. but he's not getting another dollar from me, the bastard. at least he's not fighting Terry Pratchett's estate over Good Omens.

https://bleedingcool.com/comics/terry-pratchett-estate-removes-neil-gaiman-from-good-omens-kickstarter/

speaking of which, Terry seems to have been just a great guy and was better than Neil anyway. It's really helped me to let Neil go.

[–] Bristlecone@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

Helllll yeah! Terry Pratchett, but also I'm keeping ALL celebrity at arms length without heavy vetting at this point

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Pretty sure the Anthony Keides stuff was well known for decades. It's in his autobiography that was published like 20 years ago or something.

He's always been the worst part of that band

[–] Bristlecone@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

It has been! That's why it's even more fucking disgusting to me. It isn't well known or talked about, fucking bastards just get a fucking pass sometimes and I hate it

[–] pyrinix@kbin.melroy.org 7 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I remember the moment news broke out, that I just got rid of all books he authored. The Sandman graphic novels, Coraline, American Gods, Stardust .etc

All I was looking forward to reading someday but nope.

[–] TheBat@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago

I haven't gotten rid of mine but they're all stowed away in a corner.

[–] agent_nycto@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

If you had donated them, to a thrift store or maybe a library, it would've kept someone else from buying a new copy, which would give him money.

[–] Bristlecone@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's what I'm struggling with. Throwing his content in the trash regardless of content 😩 I got sandman 1 omnibus for Christmas last year, ughhhhhh

[–] pyrinix@kbin.melroy.org 8 points 1 day ago

If you want to feel better about ditching things, just donate them.

[–] turdburglar@piefed.social 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

kiedis from scar tissue? or is there something new i missed?

[–] Bristlecone@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago

Yeah, his memoir or whatever details him knowingly committing statutory of a 14 yo girl.