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I only want to use it for facebook marketplace, but jeez i didnt know they were taking it this far with this crap...

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[–] lemmylump@lemmy.world 118 points 1 week ago (9 children)
[–] takeda@lemmy.dbzer0.com 50 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

It is addiction just like any other. I felt like I can't quit it, I feel like I will lose connection with the friends and family that is still using it. That it keeps me informed and other BS.

After deleting it on 2nd try (after navigating the maze to delete, they gave 30 days to change mind, hoping I won't be able to resist and will log in. And of course I couldn't resist the first time and logged back in) I realized that I haven't lost anything of value and the people that I still matter I have other ways to contact.

It was just an illusion.

Edit: fixed

[–] atrielienz@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] takeda@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 week ago

Swipe keyboard.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

I see less from old loved ones by not having it, but that's ok, it makes catching up an activity. It's fun to share the exciting things of the past year or two with my family and friends when I see them.

[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 1 points 1 week ago

Same. When I stopped using it, little changed, except I had a lot more free time and peace.

[–] manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml 35 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I deleted my facebook account in 2022 and have essentially not been contacted by friends since, so there's that

:(

[–] lemmylump@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Have you tried to contact them outside of FB?

Perhaps you're just not friends.

[–] mika_mika@lemmy.world 20 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I moved to a new town recently. People don't give out their phone numbers to connect. They give out their FB and Instagram accounts. Not having either is perceived as weird.

Hope this helps.

[–] lemmylump@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

You're in a fucked up town., and that attachment to the platform is more fucked up.

[–] Ulrich@feddit.org 5 points 1 week ago

It's all fucked up but that's just reality.

[–] edible_funk@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Unfortunately that's like most people outside.

[–] mika_mika@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

Facebook is something most people have and use to connect because most people don't care about the privacy invasions or manipulative algorithms. It's a fucked up world, not a fucked up town.

[–] gladflag@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That doesn’t help. Also when’s the last time you moved your life?

[–] mika_mika@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I already said I recently moved. I've moved 3 times in the past 10 years and it's all the same. Maybe people used Snapchat or Instagram more often than Facebook when I was younger but it's all the same privacy invasive shit.

The majority tolerate it, that's why Meta is so successful as a company.

Hope this helps.

[–] roserose56@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Same happen to me and I realized that where not my friends! The question someone asked me then, was how many of them would remember your birthday?
Phone numbers + messaging apps is good way to stay connected.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

To me, I dont care if my friends remember my birthday. I care if they are genuine friends and I have good conversations and laughs around them.

Someone remembering your birthday is just them putting a reminder in the calendar. Doesnt mean much, not to me at least.

So you have an actual human connection to these people? Friends could have a laugh over forgetting someones birthday, because its built on a real connection that doesnt go away over missing the small things.

[–] gustofwind@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Marketplace can be good for local deals and I can’t fault anyone for taking advantage of that

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 13 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Yeah I use it extensively for this.

If it asked me to verify and I couldn't use someone else's face it would be a tough decision.

[–] AmbiguousProps@lemmy.today 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Surprisingly, Craigslist is rather active in my area. It's still not as active as marketplace, but it makes it possible to get by without having an FB account.

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It's just not really a thing here in Australia. I just checked and in my state (about 2 million people) there's a dozen ads or so across all categories.

A distant second to facebook marketplace is gumtree. I just had a look to see how popular that is and their site just seems to be down. Shits fucked really.

[–] FippleStone@aussie.zone 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I use Gumtree instead of marketplace pretty regularly and I've not had an issue. In fact, I've found the quality of the interactions to be much higher, far fewer time wasters.

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 2 points 1 week ago

Yeah.

I think gumtree is better for different types of items.

My sister is a dog breeder and lists exclusively on gumtree to avoid the idiots on facebook.

The vast majority of stuff bought and sold from our household is low value toddler gear. fb marketplace is awash with that stuff and when you list something for the right price it's gone by the end of the day. It's true that there's some time wasters but you get better at kinda managing the great unwashed.

My partner doesn't care about the privacy issues and will never delete her fb account so maybe for the time being I can just use her account.

In 12 months or so we will be well past the worst of the "toddler gear" and I'll be happy to leave fb behind for good.

[–] roundup5381@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

how are you guys curving their invasive dark patterns? They are dead set on forcing you into their bullshit to use marketplace.

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No idea. Never been asked for any verification.

[–] hector@lemmy.today 3 points 1 week ago

You will if they don't face any competition. I haven't either yet, but everyone will, because they are maximizing revenue.

[–] defaultusername@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

One of the only good uses of Gen AI.

That being said, it's best to avoid any Big Tech products altogether if at all possible, even if Marketplace is incredibly purvasive.

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 8 points 1 week ago

That's a generalisation.

We have twins, 2 years old.

With kids there's loads of "stuff" that just makes the whole ordeal a lot more livable. Being able to buy all that stuff on facebook and re-sell for the same price has saved us a heap of money. Like thousands.

It's easy to say "oh well you should use whatever alternative platform", but honestly there's just no other ready market for this stuff.

[–] SlurpingPus@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

Remember that folks are using ‘Garry's Mod’ to circumvent UK's facial recognition requirement.

[–] superglue@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Marketplace is the one and only reason I havent deleted my account. It sucks but it is by far the best way to buy and sell.

[–] halcyoncmdr@piefed.social 16 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I tried to find something on marketplace a month ago. Dozens of posts because it's a super common item, all posts were a week or less old. None were legitimate. Every one was a scam, responses all leading to bullshit websites to buy, or users that never responded.

Has to get the item on Ebay instead because apparently they actually have basic scam prevention systems in place while Facebook apparently doesn't have shit.

[–] Ulrich@feddit.org 2 points 1 week ago

eBay is horrific for actually finding something. The fact that you can't search for something inside a category blows my mind. And then no one completes the forms correctly so even if you add filters you still get shown a bunch of shit that doesn't fit. Then the sorting appears to be just random. Good luck finding anything locally that way, because then eBay doesn't get paid. Better pony up the extra money for shipping.

I use Craigslist with some success.

[–] Anon518@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

How does it compare to nextdoor & craigslist?

[–] superglue@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 week ago

In my area Craigslist is actually better for selling vehicles or say boats, but thats about it. Nobody uses nextdoor around here, so you dont get much traffic.

[–] hector@lemmy.today 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Craigslist is better for finding apartments and roommates as well. Also finding handymen or off the books workers of any type.

Marketplace is good for used tools, selling stuff, buying stuff.

Nextdoor is a cesspool, populated by paranoids that find each other and reinforce their delusions, calling the police on "strangers," fielding grand conspiracies, and otherwise talking trash without cause.

[–] Anon518@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Perhaps it depends on the quality of moderation for your Nextdoor area. But those issues you listed are separate from the buying/selling part of it anyway. I've generally found Nextdoor & Craigslist to be sufficient.

[–] hector@lemmy.today 1 points 1 week ago

Maybe I will give it a try again and forget the crazies guarding against roving antifa death squads in their neighborhoods. Kind of hard for me to get past that though.

[–] SuspciousCarrot78@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

Through no fault of my own, the people I talk to (family) are tied to the FB ecosystem...and they are very resilient as to leaving it.

2026 will have to be the year of "please, for the love of all that is holy, can we switch to Signal"

[–] placebo@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 week ago

I only want to use it for facebook marketplace

[–] anomnom@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 week ago

Marketplace has killed most other local trading stuff sites. Craigslist is still limping along, but has far less available at higher prices than FBMP. I’m happy to hear of viable alternatives, especially for used vehicles, tools and equipment. I’ve saved a lot of money on my business and hobbies that way, but would leave in a heartbeat if there’s a real competitor.

[–] SlurpingPus@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Aside from the already-mentioned marketplace, social networks like FB are fit well for localized giveaways. Where I am, the local analog of FB has groups where bakeries and cafes give out food remaining at the end of the day.

One population that this particularly pertains to are homeless people. Some folks get surprised when a homeless person has a smartphone, but it's a means for finding help and resources.

[–] brucethemoose@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

local analog of FB

That sounds lovely!

[–] SlurpingPus@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I mean a platform that's used in my country. It's still centralized, and the practices are not much better, probably only because they haven't yet gotten around to all the same shady shit.

[–] brucethemoose@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Eh at least they presumably pay attention, moderate it, and tailor it to your country.

One of my issues with FB is that it mind as well be run from Alpha Centauri. There’s nothing “human” or local about, its a gaping maw mixed with tons of other predatory service.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago

My elderly father knows how to use it and posts nature photos all the time.