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A child told me they are doing something potentially bad in confidence, do I tell someone? (hexbear.net)
submitted 4 days ago by Keld@hexbear.net to c/parenting@hexbear.net
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They are giving out their phone number to people they met on roblox. The child is institutionalised, their parent cannot control their behavior meaningfully and the adults at the institution are pretty negligent and she doesn't trust them.
I have messaged like my whole family and some friends for advice but nobody is getting back to me.

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[–] Keld@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I have three forms of intervention available to me, I cannot bring a TV to her, i can't show her something on my phone.

A: Telling her parents

B: Telling the staff

C: Talking to her myself

Or some combination of these. If I want to show her something from the internet I need to be able to recite what she needs to do and she needs to be able to understand it. (She also does not speak English.)

[–] Salah@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

You can talk to her and be very clear about the dangers and the type of information she should not share on the internet. If you search for parenting resources on online safety you will find many resources that can help you prepare such a conversation.

And depending on the type of relationship you have with her, you can also tell her that she can always come to you if she finds herself in an uncomfortable situation online. It’s important that she doesn’t regret admitting this to you and feels safe to ask for guidance.

You can also sporadically ask her what she’s doing online to check if she’s following your advice.

[–] woodenghost@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago

C. It's crazy, because in a better world, you would definitely tell both the parents and the staff immediately, but she's already in a terrible situation where the staff is neglectful and would simply take her phone away and the parents can do nothing but tell the staff. You can tell the parents after you talked to her, if she doesn't seem to understand the danger.