If the message they’re communicating is “no” and not the exact details of why they’re saying no, “I don’t have time” is perfectly adequate. Everyone isn’t entitled to the exact details of why someone is refusing to do something. I’m not telling you if I’m refusing because I have severe diarrhea.

[–] Rooster326@programming.dev 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I would argue saying anything except "No" is poor communication skills.

If you aren't willing to negotiate then don't give them anything to negotiate on.

[–] rainwall@piefed.social 1 points 1 month ago

Social skills arent always about being as literal as possible, they can also be about navigating social situations with as little friction as needed to inform others and achieve your goals.

Saying "no" to your boss and having them accept it would be ideal, but is generally unrealistic. Saying "I dont have time" or "im booked out" achieves the same goal that flat truth will not by making it look like you will negotiate when you wont.