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Asking for a friend. No seriously, I’m trying to figure out how to best explain this to a friend as I’m having trouble enumerating how I can do it.

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[–] SaneMartigan@aussie.zone 9 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

Quality self-care takes effort. Junk food, TV and masturbation are bad self care. Meditation, yoga, cleaning your space, study for career or philosophy are good self care.

[–] mrmaplebar@fedia.io 9 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Call me crazy but I'd argue that masturbation and sex-positivity is actually pretty damn important to learning how to be happy alone.

Being single doesn't me an being a monk or depriving yourself of nice things.

Take yourself and friends out to dinner and movies, buy yourself and your family nice gifts, and yes, learn how to sexually satisfy yourself too without shame and negativity.

The idea that you can't enjoy your sexuality without a partner is kind of depressing. Sex-positivity is empowering.

[–] SaneMartigan@aussie.zone 6 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

I agree. That was an early morning insomnia comment. Junk food, tv and masturbation are all fine in moderation but they can easily become a problem for people who are stuck in a mental hole.

Just wanna add that you can start with one of those. Doesnt have to be all at once. Cooking really is great tho and cheaper too.