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[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

my 4 year old helped herself to a block of parmesan which they chewed up and spat out on my bed and my 1 year old let themselves into the bathroom and started jamming empty toilet paper rolls into the bottom of the toilet with the toilet brush.

i feel like the first one's gotta be an achievement somewhere if life were a game, lmao. i couldn't for my life spit out a BLOCK of parmezan - it's too delicious 😂😭 kid's going places. can't imagine it being fun to clean though!

For the toilet rolls, is it an idea to put the rolls 'under over' rather than 'over under'? or have you already done that

but yeah, thanks for all the tips. so essentially, forget about social life, try to split responsibilities, and all that.

if i may ask, what in it makes it worth (or motivates you)? for me my big consideration, ironically, is a sort of existential feel, that i can remove the dread of leaving no legacy - that i can have a next generation to show the world.

It wasn't a large block. I told them something they didn't want to hear and they spat it out (already chewed) in protest.

It was the cardboard tubes that they stuffed into the toilet. The 4 year old is very wasteful when wiping and if any of the kids finish a roll they tend to kick the tube under the shelves in front of the toilet. The 1 year old just collected them.

They are absolutely feral, despite my best efforts. However they are also very loving, sweet, creative, smart children and they fill me with a warm fuzzy feeling. Although that might be sleep deprivation and a persistent cold.