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The only guys who are going to approach you are the guys with no boundaries. Which is going to feed the confirmation bias.
What do you think the solution to that problem is?
Oh that's a great question, I have no idea. I'm just watching the divide happen and am glad my partner and I found each other. I'm sure it's not good for the fabric of society though. It's like we're moving further and further into isolation tendencies.
I guess the easiest solution would be the return of "handkerchief dropping" or some equivalent thing.
Pretty obvious, really, outlaw women using any kind of headphone or earbuds, or just electronic devices in general. It’s pretty sad that in this day and age that even needs pointing out.
"Women are so unreasonable! Amirite, guise??"
What confirmation bias? The confirmation bias of this straw woman you have here?
If the only men who approach you are people who don't respect boundaries, then every man you meet has similar traits, and then it's easy to think all men your problem when it's not. Just because you're easily lost in conversation doesn't make everything a strawman. It's not a magic incantation that makes you look smart.
I was going to respond at least somewhat affirming what you said and then I saw who you linked. Gross. Can't stand BilleRaeBrandt. Nothing but an apologist for misogyny.
I don't know who that is, I simply searched "men not approaching" in YouTube search. There's no shortage of similar contradictory content. Women are not a monolith, so it stands to reason that some genuinely don't want to be approached at all, and some do, but since we're not psychic, that just leaves respectful men not approaching as a default position.
I guess she is a youtuber or tiktoker or whatever who makes short videos about hetero relationship issues that (as far as I have ever seen) always blame the woman for why things have gone wrong with their dating attempts or existing relationships, etc. It's never the man's fault.