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I don’t care anymore (lemmy.eco.br)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by blackwitch@lemmy.eco.br to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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Unless he breaks up with me, as long as that doesn’t happen, I will stay by his side and I no longer care that he seems to prefer someone else over me. I guess that’s how our poly relationship will work and I should suck it up. I love him anyway and he’ll be spending time with just me at therapy group.

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[–] blackwitch@lemmy.eco.br 3 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Thanks. I asked him if we could hang out like old times, he said "I don't know". I asked if he would spend more time with me and he said "I don't know, maybe when my other boyfriend is busy"

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago

Yeah that's not a healthy way to treat a serious partner

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

As someone who has no one at all, this is just so heartbreaking to me. If I was lucky enough to be in a poly relationship, and my partner came to me and told me they felt like you have explained, I would do everything I could to try to reverse that feeling. Why would I be in a relationship with them at all if I didn't want them to feel loved?

Your feelings matter, and it hurts me immensely that he isn't taking them seriously or giving you the kindness and support you deserve for being open about your feelings. I wish I could give you a hug right now. You deserve comfort and understanding, not blithe dismissal like you got. I'm so so sorry that you're going through this.

[–] blackwitch@lemmy.eco.br 0 points 1 day ago

Thank you 🫂 My therapist at group said to break up if he didn’t meet my needs. I’m giving him one more chance if we ever hang out later

[–] Jake_Farm@sopuli.xyz 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Doesn't sound like he cares about you. Does he deserve your love? Is there any line that if he crossed you would stop loving him?

[–] blackwitch@lemmy.eco.br 0 points 1 day ago

Thanks, probably if he started outright saying he didn’t care about me like my one5th grade “ex” said to me