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Let me tell you a story. For as long as I could remember, I was always externalizing my happiness on set conditions.
I just need more money, then I’ll be happy and at peace.
I just need a new car. Then I’d finally be fulfilled.
I just needed to be in a fulfilling relationship. Then I’d finally be whole.
I just needed excitement. Adventure. Change in my life. Then I’d be happy.
I just needed to find “meaning”. A purpose. Religion maybe? Some kind of metaphysical concept or something. Then I’d be happy.
And on and on and on and on.
And when I did achieve what I thought would finally make me happy, it was always momentary and hollow. And soon the background dissatisfaction would come back.
Realizing that there was nothing external that could keep me at a consistent state of peace and happiness was one of the biggest realizations for me. There is nothing that can “make” me happy. Happiness must come internally rather than external. You must be happy to just “be”. Just your “being”, your awareness, should spark joy and happiness in you all the time. This is a difficult concept to put into words.
For me, mindfulness and meditation allowed me to be aware of my thoughts and mental forms. Which allow me to more easily stay only as an “observer” to any negative thought forms. I had been mistaking the clouds for the sky. When they are in fact, only clouds that will pass eventually. And the sky is very beautiful and bright indeed, and is always there for you to access, even if it seems obscured by clouds.
Once I was doing pretty good, I used psychedelics to enhance my understanding (shrooms, dmt mostly). This has allowed me to “be” with the universe itself. To realize that I “am” the universe experiencing this dance called “life”. And that’s exactly what life is. A dance.
And then eventually, I don’t even need psychedelics to experience myself.
Realizing this, I have more fun. I don’t take things too seriously. I am much more at peace and happy. I don’t attach myself to unnecessary wants. I still feel negative emotions, yes, but I do not attach myself to them. I allow them to come and go, and I can finally live life the way it was meant to be lived.
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