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[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 35 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (4 children)

Why are women even taught/expected to behave like sneaky spies when it comes to romance? "Ok, time to do my personal hair signal that I'm interested and want him to approach"

[–] AlfredoJohn@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Probably because historically the patriarchy took away women's rights to be able to choose mates and had years and years of arranged marriages. Then couple that with women being in those forced relationships who could not chose their partners looking for comfort outside of the inhumane treatment of forced marriages and you get societal pressures that taught women they dont get a say in romantic relationships and as such them showing interest had to be covert as it was typically to those outside their prescribed marriage and if caught they could at the very least be socially disowned or at worst be literally killed for it. So yeah im not surprised women have a tendency to be less obvious about it its only very recently in human history that they got to have a say in finding partners.

[–] Tedesche@lemmy.today 1 points 2 hours ago

I don’t think that’s it.

[–] prime_number_314159@lemmy.world 29 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Being clear about your desire also means that rejection is clear, and that hurts.

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 5 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

The girl in the OP isn't happy with being ignored tho

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

she won't be happy if she gets what she wants either.

unhappy people invent reasons to be unhappy, no matter what happens, good or bad.

[–] nodiratime@lemmy.world 4 points 11 hours ago

This is a selfmade problem, don't try to pin it on anyone but women.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago) (1 children)

plausible deniability. if you don't actually try, you can't actually be rejected.

This is a selfmade problem, don’t try to pin it on anyone but women.

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 1 points 10 hours ago

From that girl's perspective, it seems that she feels rejected, just not explicitly