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Let’s be honest, go to any left wing party and you’ll see most people are dating liberals hahaha
Many leftists started out as liberals, it makes sense they’d believe others could also change.
-signed, a vegan married to a butcher, so don’t listen to me lol (at least he’s a leftist)
My wife started out with tons of republican views, she just didn't vote ever.
Through conversations about the state of things, pointing* out hypocrisy, and validating the feelings her religious family was telling her to suppress, I'm happy to say I've managed to marry a leftist. She didn't even really have the liberal pit-stop many of us take.
I'll take 100,000 leftists married/dating/whatever to 100,000 liberals over 200,000 conservatives any day of the week.
Glad to hear I'm not the only one. Imagine my chagrin after years of rigorously checking the assumptions and programming of my conservative upbringing and converting to liberalism, when I found out that leftism and liberalism are actually different things, with a diversity of opinions and worldviews that I then needed to parse in order to determine where I stand...
This mentality where "If you weren't born leftist and raised leftist and been leftist all your life and all your friends are leftist, then you're fascist scum who needs to perish in the revolution" is doing incalculable harm to any genuine leftist movement.
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I keep saying "We can't keep alienating potential allies if we want to unite the working class" but they hit me with the "class traitors don't matter / we don't want to work with anyone who was formerly conservative [(as if anyone is to blame for their upbringing...)] / you're just a fascist apologist who needs to die in the revolution too / only our flavor of leftism is true leftism and anyone who disagrees with us is fascist scum who needs to die in the revolution / if you don't unquestioningly accept everything we tell you without any nuance then you're an enemy of the proletariat and need to die in the revolution"They're really making leftism as a whole look bad, and they don't even realize it. I mean, how can you claim to represent the proletariat while simultaneously claiming that 60% or more of the proletariat need to be executed as class traitors? It's like they're trying to conform to the caricature that the right-wing depicts "radical leftist liberal communists" as. You're not going to catch many flies with that vinegar.
They'll say things like "we don't need help from fascist shitlibs" and other unironic and oxymoronic absurdities of that nature, but if you want a popular uprising then you're going to need to convince a majority of the population that you're all on the same team, otherwise you're nothing but an authoritarian reactionary.
It makes me really not want to take part in their supposed "revolution," especially when you see what the bolsheviks did to the soviets and anarchists after they helped them win theirs...
The Left eats its own. The Right too... eventually, though seems to do a better job (especially lately but also historically as well) of putting aside their differences in the short-term in order to strategically attain their goals. e.g. they will accept a trans person of color voting for them... for a time, before they eventually put them to death.
This probably helps explain the global rise of fascism since WWII. Fascism is winning, and will do even more so given modern technology like surveillance tools.
Which makes the attitude of the so-called "leftists" on e.g. hexbear or lemmy.ml seem all the more odd to me. It appears as if the emotional "high" of incel-like whinging supercedes any actual irl progress attempts to be made. It is very juvenile. In their defense (if it can be called thus) they exist inside of echo chambers and so are kept in that juvenile state artificially. Right or so-called "Left", it is really difficult to break out of such a cult-like existence.
And the Threadiverse does not seem eager to either help them break out or at least protect new users and thereby expand the Threadiverse to a much wider audience, by e.g. defederation. In large part since people prefer to use the Lemmy devs to continue to develop that software, regardless of the consequences that will have upon the state of the Threadiverse overall (tbf, Lemmy was genuinely first there, and yet many of us are only here because first Kbin, then Mbin and now PieFed offers an alternative?). Thus, the enhancement of PieFed is my first real hope there (well, ever since the demise of Ernst's Kbin) that things can get better.
The Good ending.
This sounds hilarious! Thanks for the good laugh!
But it is as legit as anything haha, leftist here married to a Christian conservative (at least she doesn’t vote lol 😶🌫️) and yes “I can change her” is definitely on my mind.
Those are irl, whereas the toxic AF perpetually online among us here (e.g. hexbear and Lemmygrad and lemmy.ml) are likely not dating at all.
What’s the deal with lemmy.ml by the way? I know a few marxist-leninists IRL who, as you say, are quite normal.
Is there beef with that .ml instance on Lemmy? I’m new here as you can see.
Welcome to the Threadiverse! You will enjoy it here, once you find your peers:-).
Lemmy.ml only claims to be for marxist-leninists - for actual real ones you may prefer e.g. slrpnk.net or perhaps lemmy.dbzer0.com. The lemmy.ml admins are (in)famously authoritarian, banning people from communities that they've never so much as heard of due to comments made elsewhere, citing a rule that does not exist - nowhere is it written down, yet everyone knows that you are not allowed to criticize Russia, China, or North Korea (or not praise them hard enough?). Mind you, they are free to do as they please, but to enforce an entirely different set of rules than the publicly announced ones... yes that generates much friction across the Threadiverse.
The fact that they (both users and even admins) routinely celebrate murder of everyone who merely lives in a Western civilization (collaborators?) kinda puts most people off from them, and also aside from that, their communication style where your consent does not matter puts aside the rest. They famously brag about creating alt accounts to get around bans - for them no does not mean no, but merely that they have to get a bit more clever about their proselytizing. So yes there's beef, but mostly despite what they claim, it is not mere political differences, and due more to their incel culture that is the leftist version of MAGA's Alternative Right, upholding "alternative facts". Plus in true echo chamber style, banning anyone who attempts to say otherwise, and also in general harassing people in other communities, with appeals to their admins to reign in their users falling on deaf ears.
If you are interested, see an absolute mountain of details in the !meanwhileongrad@sh.itjust.works community, such as the pinned monthly megathread "Documentation of Lemmy.ml's Extremism [Megathread]", but you can also read other more focused topics such as "Lead Lemmy Developer, Dessalines, denying the Tiananmen Square Massacre and praising the Uyghur Genocide" and "[Transphobia Warning] Nutomic’s Stance on Transgender People", etc.
Personally I user blocked the entire instance, and have never once regretted that. You do not have that option btw, on a Lemmy instance (unless you use one of the rare 3rd party apps that provides it), you would have to switch to a PieFed instance to get that along with just an absolute ton of other features that Lemmy lacks but PieFed has had for months, and it will take Lemmy years and years to catch up, if ever. Also fair warning you do have something that claims to be a user block of an instance, but it is extremely misleading - to the point of disinformation even - as it merely blocks communities located on that instance while still leaving users on it to read, reply to, and manipulate the vote on your content, as well as to send you DMs, even triggering notifications, and there is no way to stop any of that. A better term than instance block would have been a community muting.
And just in general the level of discourse with people on Lemmy.ml accounts seems to be significantly lower - not always but by far it is generally the case, as the most toxic and generally batshit insane comments that you see tend to come from users on that instance.
So now you know!:-)
Casual endorsement or sympathy for summary executions based on class alone. With or without, "just joking bro"
A failure to accept the possibility that societal collapse will probably hurt more people than it helps.
Please explain your definition of toxicity. Or maybe you just did
You've just posted a great example.