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2016 i was in a shitty long term relationship for a year. it ended that summer when she fessed up she'd been lying to me about tons of things. i really loved her and i was devastated... and sadly this was the 3rd time a LTR ended this way, by someone who had lied to be about major dealbreakers and she blamed me for all of this... not to mention during the actual breakup she attacked me physically and called me a pussy for not fighting back and beating her and screamed at me that i was a horrible partner for not giving her $100,000 to pay off her debts.
I had just moved after getting kicked out of my apartment, and my company just changed management and I thought I was going to get fired. I was only making about 40K a year too. the place i moved into was tiny and shitty and I hated it. I was depressed and suicidal most days.
10 years later and i kept my job and got many promotions and now make 150K. I own my own place, and own my own car, I have pets that I love, and I focused on my hobbies, interests, and volunteering. I don't drink or smoke anymore and I wake up almost everyday eager and happy. I am super fit and healthy and I am always learning new things as I put in the effort and its super rewarding. I haven't dated anyone for seriously though since 2018, which sucks, but I'd rather be happy alone and achieving me goals than in another relationship with a horrible person who is destroying my life because they hate theirs so much.