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Since 2016 was 10 years ago and this whole online throwback trend is going around, I felt like asking. In 2016, I finished 3rd grade and started 4th grade. Fast forward to now, I graduated high school last year, started a distance learning bachelor’s program, and I’m 23 weeks pregnant with my first child, due in July.

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[–] signedupat9pm@lemmy.world 7 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

I’ve had this plan in mind since I was about 14: be 18, graduate high school, get pregnant, have my first and only child at 19, give them the best life possible, and be the best mom I can be. At the time, I had never even had a boyfriend. I met my first and only boyfriend at 16, and we’ve been together since. I’ve been taking prenatal vitamins ever since I became sexually active. Money isn’t an issue, and all things considered, the plan worked out exactly as I imagined. I’ve always been a very nurturing person, and I’ve been devouring books and content about parenting, pregnancy, and childbirth.

[–] Drusas@fedia.io 1 points 3 hours ago

I'm so happy for you for knowing what you want and going for it. I wouldn't recommend becoming a parent that young in general, but if you're ready for it, the youthfulness will allow you to do so much more as far as keeping up with the energy of a little kid goes.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

Cuddle them.

I loved it so much when I cuddled with my mom, like she'd encourage it and she'd sometime initiate it.

My dad never did that... I guess that's just a mom-only thing?

I'm male so idk if in the future as a dad, if I can do the cuddling as good as a mom could lol.

Omg those memories make me UwU so much...

I remember my mom just letting me sleep in their bed... like... okay maybe western culture is more adverse to it, but I felt warm... I felt safe...

But now adulthood is here and I'm so sad lol...

the NOSTALGIA...

Also pls don't yell at them... my mom also yelled at me and then I feel so sad... cause me depression..

Money isn’t an issue

Oh yea this is why idk if I even wanna start a family...

Maybe if I secured my share of the inheritance... then I'd be stress free in starting a family...

But if I get disinherited... yeah then maybe it'll never happen... :(

[–] Drusas@fedia.io 1 points 3 hours ago

I hated being cuddled or hugged. But I had high functioning autism, so....