Yeah I genuinely lack the imagination to picture parents who aren't saying slurs every other word. It seems like every white person around my parents' age is like that with incredibly rare exceptions.

I've seen it come in two varieties, ambient and active. My dad is ambient. He'll complain about black people and the state of the world, but it's incoherent and when pushed on it, he'll shut up, but it's still there in him. My mother is active, every 5 minutes she has to complain about the existence of Latino people or how Trump should be king of America. She'll bring it up no matter what is going on. She taught me the n-word before I had ever seen a black person for the first time. Actually deranged people.