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submitted 10 months ago by Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I feel like things on Lemmy were pretty chill several months ago, and that’s started to change.

People used to talk each other like they would talk to a neighbor. Now I get the sense that people have become quick to be negative, attack, and not be constructive.

Am I crazy in feeling like the vibe has changed?

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[-] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago

It's been my experience that it's a couple problem instances where most of the toxicity comes from.

[-] Fudoshin@feddit.uk 4 points 10 months ago

Lemmy.ml users are the worst by a long shot. I hear they're mutants who live underground!

[-] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 6 points 10 months ago

Well i'm here to put the allegations to rest: I do in fact live above ground.

[-] ProdigalFrog@slrpnk.net 2 points 10 months ago

If you're talking about the two that I think you are, I agree. I suspect my pleasant experience is due to my instance defederating completely with those, which is pretty swank.

[-] SorteKanin@feddit.dk 1 points 10 months ago

Which ones, if you don't mind me asking?

[-] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)
  • Hexbear: Similar to lemmygrad they have their strong convictions, but don't have the maturity to back it up.

  • LemmyWorld: Users are a mixed bag but the admins seem dead set on turning the place into a nazi bar.

  • sh.itholefor.nazis: The only thing you need to know about these guys is they have a c/ for conservatives

  • feddit de: Literally every user on this instance is dead set on reminding you that Germany never underwent denazification

  • discusstchncs de: same story but to a much less extreme extent

  • lemm ee: The owners don't really moderate and its users reflect this fact. Universally unpleasant userbase.

[-] sunaurus@lemm.ee 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

lemm ee: The owners don’t really moderate and its users reflect this fact. Universally unpleasant userbase.

This is categorically untrue. You can find our administration policy here, and we frequently ban users for breaking our instance rules. At most you could make the claim that we are lenient when it comes to things like heated arguments, as we often give warnings or temporary bans to users in such cases, but on the other hand, our "no bigotry" rule is very strict, and violations have consistently resulted in permanent bans.

We of course don't screen all posts and comments which our users write, so we can only respond to reports, but I assure you that our admin team is constantly going over and responding to the report queue (which is a big effort, and clearly a thankless job).

By the way, I just want to point out that we have ~3000 active monthly users on lemm.ee, I find it very unlikely that you can make an accurate universal judgement about such a huge group of people.

[-] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

That's what the owners of feddit de said too and it didn't stop their users from constantly leaving harassing messages on anything left of hitler. In fact, it was one of your members leaving a shitty comment that spurred me to add ee to the list, it wasn't even included initially.

EDIT: You do realize that modlogs are public right? I went through them and was less than impressed with what I saw. It seems your idea of "moderation" is to remove when people call you on your shit, which is especially convenient that someone just so happened to call out that your conservative c/ (why is there a conservative c/!?!) is being run by an actual pedo. So yeah, sums up what I expected from you guys.

[-] sunaurus@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

I am not really interested in discussing this with you, as you already have an opinion about lemm.ee and seem intent on spreading false rumors about us. I've learned several months ago that no matter how much you give to people for free, there will always be users demanding more, so I don't think there is any chance of you being interested in what I have to say. I am just responding here, so other users who may end up reading this thread don't come away with the impression that what you are saying is true.

First of all, no user has ever been banned from lemm.ee for criticizing the admin team. Our admins have banned nearly a thousand users in the past ~7 months (just think about that for a second - that is a massive amount of bullshit our volunteer admins have had to wade through in the span of less than a year), and indeed the mod log is public, so you can easily check the ban reasons, which are consistently related to violations of our basic instance rules.

If any moderation team on any of our communities does not follow our instance rules, then such communities are closed. We have in fact had to do this several times before with some conservative-type communities, mainly because they wanted to push the ideas that some people, based on their identities, are less valuable as humans that others. The current conservative community on the other hand is consistently moderating based on our instance rules, and they have incorporated the no bigotry rule into their community rules as well. If this ever changes, then we will take action, just as we have done previously.

Regarding the allegations against one of the mods, I'm not sure if you've seen the event they were referencing, but I think it's safe to say that this event was extremely misrepresented by the accuser. In any real cases of CSAM, lemm.ee has taken drastic actions. We have purged, banned, defederated, reported to authorities, we have implemented some technical safeguards, and we will continue to take action like this in the future as well.

Let me just finish off by saying that we are a volunteer team giving up our time for free. I realize that users want admins to be perfect and moderate exactly in line with their preferences, but we are humans, we miss things, we make mistakes, and we can not possibly be available 24/7 or read every single piece of content posted by other lemm.ee users.

[-] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 0 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Letting it get just bad enough that it doesn't cause problems for you isn't how anyone should moderate. You have to be proactive and get rid of problem users before it gets to that point, make it clear that isn't welcome, which is something your instance has routinely failed to do.

Also for the record I know that you're full of shit when it comes to the owner of conservative c/ not being a pedo because conservativism is at its core a pedo ideology, just like all right-wing ideologies; it always comes back to child abuse with those types. CSAM attacks don't happen in a vacuum, they happen when you foster the kinds of people who are into that shit and you make them feel welcome, which is exactly what your "we're going to do the bare minimum of moderating" is attracting.

I've already made it clear that i'm not going to fold to any of your tricks, and you've made it clear you're aware you're wasting your time on me, so why you even bothered to besmirch your reputation by even engaging in the first place is beyond me, but definitely speaks to the lack of experience and borderline negligence that you carry about. I sincerely hope shit gets better for you and the mod team and hopefully an actually competent moderation policy can go a great step in ensuring you never have to deal with more attacks going forward, because that shit fucking sucks and nobody should have to go through it. I hope whoever did it is rotting in a jail cell and that's coming from a prison abolitionist.

Oh and BTW just going forward, don't tell someone whose complaining about your instance members being harassing little shits "nuh-uh disinformation" unless you're prepared to get a fatal dose of all that fermented spite unleashed right into your face. Making it about you is the single worse thing you can do in that case and really tells everyone in the room where your priorities are.

EDIT: and there go the downvotes, well I think that's a good of a place as any to cut the thread.

[-] areyouevenreal@lemm.ee 1 points 9 months ago

You think being a conservative is a pedo ideology? Are you serious? Wow.

[-] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 1 points 9 months ago

Party of lowering the age of consent.

[-] areyouevenreal@lemm.ee 1 points 9 months ago
[-] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 1 points 9 months ago

All of them, really. Conservatism has its roots in upholding systems of oppression and child abuse.

[-] areyouevenreal@lemm.ee 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Definitely has roots in systems of oppression because conservatism by definition supports the current system which is oppressive. The latter part you are gonna have to prove.

[-] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Conservatism doesn't support the current system which happens to be oppressive, they support the current system because it's oppressive. The original Conservatives formed because they wanted to defend the monarchy, which was a system of oppression which makes even capitalism look tame by comparison. The only reason they jumped ship is because socialism became the greater threat.

As for the ties to child abuse that's a case of just look at the connections and the people they choose to align with.

[-] KrasMazov@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 10 months ago

I'm only gonna comment on Hexbear and you're completely wrong. They do have less patience with libs comming there saying shit, but everytime that happens, there's always people actually engaging and backing up all of their claims. It's not only dunking.

[-] WanderingVentra@lemm.ee 3 points 10 months ago

It's usually buried under the dunking but I think that's because hexbear doesn't have up and down votes, so they have to comment to make their opinion known. It leads to a lot of annoying brigading looking behavior on comments, but at least their good comments tend to be pretty good. Sometimes it's not worth digging through all the sarcasm, pig poop balls, and picture posts to find it, though lol.

[-] exocrinous@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

Remember that time the World admins removed the rules against discrimination from their terms of service and got rid of the code of conduct? Racism was legal for a while there.

.ee is my favourite instance because I trust the average user more than the average admin.

[-] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

To be fair anything is a step up over LW's antimoderation. They wanted to be reddit and I think they succeeded in the worst way.

[-] exocrinous@lemm.ee -1 points 10 months ago

Antimoderation seems to be the norm on Lemmy. For example, I was banned from Beehaw for being "pompous". I have narcissistic personality disorder, and being pompous is a symptom. It's a disability that interferes with my ability to display humility. I was being nice, kind, following the rules, doing what I was told, trying to resolve problems peacefully, and the admins said I was pompous and banned me. NPD isn't a disability when it comes to kindness, morals, ethics, or prosocial behaviour. But I can't turn being pompous off, any more than I can turn being weird off as an autistic person.

[-] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee -1 points 10 months ago

You're right, and you're on one of them.

[-] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 0 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Oh yeah i'll add ee to the list. I knew I was forgetting someone.

[-] exocrinous@lemm.ee -1 points 10 months ago

I've seen toxic behaviour supported by mods on Hexbear, Beehaw, and Blahaj mainly. World is also pretty bad.

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