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[-] hark@lemmy.world 160 points 4 months ago

Lockdowns during covid kinda did this and the extroverts went crazy.

[-] ObstreperousCanadian@lemmy.ca 92 points 4 months ago

It drove my coworkers up the wall to hear that my wife, kids, and I were totally cool with being locked down together. And I had been working from home for years before the pandemic. I think they chafed at being locked down and the notion of anyone being okay with it was unfathomable to them.

[-] einlander@lemmy.world 42 points 4 months ago

All these return to work policies.

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[-] teft@lemmy.world 112 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Introvert doesn't mean shy or socially anxious. I regularly tell people to shut the fuck up if they're in my space being annoying.

[-] CaptainEffort@sh.itjust.works 81 points 4 months ago

Exactly this, my dad’s an introvert but is the most charismatic person I know. He does great with people, but is the last to arrive and the first to leave since he finds it so draining. He “recharges” when he’s by himself.

[-] z00s@lemmy.world 24 points 4 months ago

That's kinda what I do too. I acknowledge it as an effort that needs to be managed and have strategies to recharge afterwards.

I don't hate being around people but it does take a lot of energy.

[-] theonyltruemupf@feddit.de 8 points 4 months ago

I'm the opposite. I'm an extrovert but really shy.

[-] Lath@kbin.earth 6 points 4 months ago

Oh, does that make him MajorEffort? Or GeneralEffort?

[-] vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works 9 points 4 months ago

He's actually AdmiralEffort.

[-] snooggums@midwest.social 8 points 4 months ago

I did that for a while, but got shit for it everytime and just stopped going out because it wasn't worth the hassle.

[-] orangeboats@lemmy.world 84 points 4 months ago

Society in general encourages and rewards those who speak more, even if the things they speak have zero contribution or are absolute nonsense.

[-] Emerald@lemmy.world 23 points 4 months ago

Sounds like a company meeting

[-] oce@jlai.lu 6 points 4 months ago

Or corporate performance evaluation

[-] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago

Society in general encourages and rewards those who speak more

Squeaky Wheel, etc.

But only if you're older, whiter, taller, and maler.

Society (at least, my corner of the American Southwest) hates hearing a short young brown woman open her mouth.

[-] spiderwort@lemm.ee 5 points 4 months ago

Sounds like the Internet

[-] Sombyr@lemmy.zip 62 points 4 months ago

Extrovert here.
People do. Constantly. It's a normal thing. If you're hanging out with people who refuse to shut up and let you be comfortable for a while the problem isn't that they're extroverts. The problem is that they're assholes. Unfortunately the two can look similar on account of assholes having less boundaries making them appear to be more extroverted when in reality they're just less respectful.

[-] z00s@lemmy.world 48 points 4 months ago

Does anyone else think extroverts are being incredibly fragile when they post about how they "can't" go to the movies or a restaurant alone?

[-] DillyDaily@lemmy.world 33 points 4 months ago

I remember during Covid lock downs extroverts were loosing their minds and blaming their extrovertism for their cabin fever.

First of all, true isolation is unhealthy and crazy inducing for everyone, that's why they still use solitary confinement in prisons for further punishment, so no, extroverts, you're not special for feeling depressed during a global pandemic. (but yes, it did suck extra for them)

But so many extroverts seemed to assume lock downs were an introverts wet dream. There was very little attempt to understand each other. I'd see introverts empathising with extroverts who were struggling, but the reverse rarely happened, extroverts just seemed to assume "you introverts must be loving this solitude" and when myself and others tried to open up about how we were struggling I would hear "yeah but you like being alone, you're used to it" like that makes it easier.

At no point did I really see any of the extroverts I know, or anyone online posting about how "wow, being pushed this far out of my comfort zone by lockdowns sucks, is this how introverts feel when I force them to actively engage in crowded, highly social parties?"

Not that I expect the middle of a planet wide plague to be the time I'd suddenly expect people to show self reflection and emotional maturity, but it was still worth the observation.

[-] StitchIsABitch@lemmy.world 26 points 4 months ago

I mean... Of course everyone feels different, but I personally didn't mind the lockdown at all because of those exact reasons. Yes, I like being home, I like being alone, and while I also like going out and seeing friends from time to time, knowing that they also can't go out took the FOMO away that often motivates me to participate in social activities.

I honestly did not notice a big change in my lifestyle or emotional state during the lockdown, while some extrovert friends spiralled pretty hard.

But once again, those feelings are different for everyone. I just don't like generalising. My extroverted friends are also very respectful and give me space when I need it or ask for it, so acting like extroverts are just assholes with no regard for their friends makes me think some of you need better friends.

[-] Draedron@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 4 months ago

I liked the lockdown. It was nice not to need to find excuses not to come to any social gatherings and the mask mandates made it so I didnt have to smell anyone the few times I had to go out

[-] Jesus_666@lemmy.world 13 points 4 months ago

I don't. I generally dislike eating out or going to movies or events alone. I'm also generally very introverted but I happen to dislike going out and doing stuff by myself.

One big part is that I can chat if I eat with someone but if I eat by myself I'm understimulated. And if I already sit there and look at my smartphone while eating I can as well just pick up something from the bakery around the corner and eat it while looking at my computer screen.

[-] Theharpyeagle@lemmy.world 42 points 4 months ago

I hate all this extrovert VS introvert stuff, one side seen as vapid, gibbering apes and the other seen as loner shut-ins. It's exhausting, especially since most people don't fall squarely into one camp or the other.

There's plenty of introverted people who love to talk and go out with people, they just need some time between outings to wind down and gear up and to know there's someone around that will share their interests. Likewise, there are shy extroverts who thrive more in online spaces where they can easily manage their interactions with others and have time to think about their responses. In either case, being an asshole is not part of it.

[-] EatATaco@lemm.ee 7 points 4 months ago

I honestly don't even hear anyone complaining about introverts. All I hear is socially anxious people or misanthropes complaining about other people talking, and confusing that with introversion.

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[-] xandn@lemmy.world 20 points 4 months ago

I feel this so much. My boss talks nonstop from the minute he walks in the door until the end of the day and then asks me why I'm so quiet. At least I have headphones or I'd go crazy.

[-] MonkderDritte@feddit.de 12 points 4 months ago

and then asks me why I'm so quiet.

"You said everything already."

[-] ParabolicMotion@lemmy.world 12 points 4 months ago

I actually had another adult clap her hands in front of my face, to interrupt me, after asking me a question, because she wanted to interject something she had supposedly forgotten to say to me. Being an introvert, I immediately stopped talking, and waited for her to provide an explanation for clapping in my face. I guess extroverts just have a different way of communicating than I do.

[-] vladmech@lemmy.world 58 points 4 months ago

That seems less like being an extrovert and more like being an asshole :/

[-] dumbass@leminal.space 17 points 4 months ago

Yeah that's just a run of the mill cunt.

[-] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 10 points 4 months ago

I just came in here to say that the 2000s version of Pingu sucked ass and they could have found someone better than whoever they did to do Pingu's voice properly.

Thank you.

[-] Akasazh@feddit.nl 14 points 4 months ago

The fact that he has a voice outside of the trumpeting 'whaap whaap' sound is sacrilege

[-] MadBob@feddit.nl 9 points 4 months ago

Correct, but he famously says "noot noot".

[-] Akasazh@feddit.nl 6 points 4 months ago

I'm not a native speaker of Penguish

[-] victorz@lemmy.world 6 points 4 months ago

I'm not a native speaker of Horseish either but I know they don't say "rrribbit".

[-] Akasazh@feddit.nl 4 points 4 months ago

I know a lot of words that are not said in Chinese, however I can't spell a single word correctly that is.

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[-] olutukko@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago

NOOOT NOOOT

[-] GlitterInfection@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago

Of course they do. About 8 hours per day extroverts are forced to shut up and not bother any introverts. It's torture for them!

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