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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by nekothegamer@sh.itjust.works to c/me_irl@lemmy.world
 

i wonder what y'all have to say about this

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[–] einfach_orangensaft@sh.itjust.works 161 points 2 months ago (3 children)

ngl that post is rather toxic

[–] Cobrachicken@lemmy.world 54 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Wait till they get into puberty.

[–] einfach_orangensaft@sh.itjust.works 19 points 2 months ago (2 children)

i had one of those my self, and i was very stupid and anoying during that, that dosent mean my parents want me gone wtf

[–] CaptDust@sh.itjust.works 40 points 2 months ago

Uh, isn't it the kid saying they wish they were never born?

[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

This comic might not be about you personally

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[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago

Yep, parental puberty is a terrifying phase.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

If you can't trust a cobra chicken on the topic of being toxic, whom can you trust?

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 15 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

I did miss it, thank you for the enlightenment!

[–] bss03@infosec.pub 33 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

There's a suicidal way of thinking that when you are gone everyone will be better off. I think the comic could contribute to that thinking, but maybe it's meant to be a satirical rebuttal to that thinking instead.

Poe's Law

[–] Nelots@lemm.ee 25 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I feel like anybody stuck in that state of mind would likely fail to see the satire in it.

[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)

maybe it's meant to be a satirical rebuttal to that thinking instead

I don't see that. If it's satire it's pretty harmful and ineffective

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[–] Inucune@lemmy.world 95 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Maybe don't constantly tell your 13 year old to get a job if they want something, then sabotage any attempt they make at getting a job?

Maybe don't have a kid so you have something resembling a proto-personality beyond self absorbed narcissism.

Don't expect a kid to fix a failing marriage.

sometimes the kid saying that is a little shit. Sometimes it is the parents that are the problem.

[–] kautau@lemmy.world 38 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Yup. In my opinion if you want to have a child, the only reason should be to raise a better person than you or your spouse could be, and provide them with a better life than you had, enriching your life in the process. If you have a kid for any other reason, it’s out of selfishness

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[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 91 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Thats extremely unhelpful and even harmful for many people

Trigger warning: depressionI personally have depression and have been through horrible things before I even turned 18. So yeah if you told me when I was 15 or 16 that eveyone around be would be significantly happier and better off with me not around I would genuenly consider jumping off a bridge.

[–] foofiepie@lemmy.world 22 points 2 months ago

Me too, and I agree it would have had a negative effect when I was at a vulnerable stage way back then.

Now that I’m a grisly old bastard, and a parent, I found it funny af.

So, mixed feelings.

[–] wolframhydroxide@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I definitely see your point, though I took this as an anti-natalist joke, not a refutation of "It's a Wonderful Life".

I'm inclined to wonder at what point the arguments of anti-natalism must be weighed against the nihilistic implications on those already born?

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[–] OldChicoAle@lemmy.world 41 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Literally what I think would happen if I disappeared. This is kinda a dangerous post for people with suicidal ideation.

[–] turnip@lemm.ee 12 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I've been watching Mr Rogers lately since I have a young kid now and I think thats the way to act. Even people he might disagree with he would have a chill discussion and respect their opinion, just letting them vent their problems.

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[–] HalfSalesman@lemm.ee 36 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I feel nothing but revulsion and disgust for the person who made this comic.

It places its sympathy towards parents, which is nonsense. They're the ones who choose to bring the child into existence in the first place. They should fucking bear the guilt and try and make up for it as best as they can.

[–] andros_rex@lemmy.world 13 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

When I was 6, I told my mother I hated her and she threw away my entire Pokémon card collection. I think my hatred was probably justified. (I had a holo Charizard, bitch could have sold it for grocery money.)

[–] HalfSalesman@lemm.ee 5 points 2 months ago (3 children)

My parents treated me mostly fine, though I'm fairly certain with my father it was fairly conditional, I was just careful to not get on his bad side. Now not so much.

Even with acceptable or even good parents, I still find everything to be fairly existentially unpleasant. I resent being born.

That said, despite that I still love my mom. Shes a good person despite having given birth to me.

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[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 35 points 2 months ago

If I was never born I wouldn't be alive and I wouldn't have to kill myself. Truly the best of both worlds.

[–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 30 points 2 months ago

I get that pregnancy may embiggen your ass, but that is not where I'd be checking for stretch marks...

[–] iridebikes@lemmy.world 30 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Really kinda gross that their kid gets zapped and they immediately celebrate.

No wonder the kid hated them. He knew.

Parents, go hug your kid and tell them you love em.

[–] Aksamit@slrpnk.net 6 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Parents, go hug your kid and tell them you love em.

Better yet, use birth control and don't condemn another life to this shit hole reality in the first place.

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[–] HollowNaught@lemmy.world 26 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Ngl, this post really doesn't send a good message. Is it true for some people? Probably

But my parents pushed me into 3 days of tafe, 2 days of uni, and 2 days of work a week when I was younger. It caused me to crash and burn

It honestly makes people who are already doing a lot feel like they have to do more to make up for what their parents have given up for them, and that's just unhealthy

I had to move away from that mindset, and something like this really wouldn't have helped

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[–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 25 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Truly though - What's more life-affirming than showing contempt for your parents' presumption to drag you from the void? It shows you've really weighed your options and decided to stay and bitch.

[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 13 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Adolescents and younger teens aren't really know for their introspection, I kind of give them a pass for saying that stuff at that stage in their life. At that age, lots of us learn how stupid something is only when we hear it coming out of our own mouths. It becomes really cringe though when they graduate into adulthood and they're still saying that or holding that opinion. At that point even their peers are given them the side eye or saying something like "dude, that doesn't fly anymore. Get your shit together".

[–] wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 31 points 2 months ago (31 children)

Hard disagree, from a 30-something. Two horny people fucked with no protection and now I'm expected to get an education, find and hold employment, be self-sufficient, and be fucking grateful for being forced to do this shit? And all of their inabilities to parent properly, leading to near-debilitating anxiety and stress, is somehow my fault? That I should cater to the two idiots that couldn't take a pill or unwrap a damn condom, because they want a mini-me? That I should blindly follow their religious views, of - again - two people that decided that momentary pleasure was better than lifelong calm and stability, for themselves and others? Two people who want to dictate what I like, what I'm interested in, my political viewpoint, my sexual preferences...? Two idiots that decided that mixing the worst part of one's DNA with the worst part of the other is a wonderful thing to do, and the visual issues of one, the deep constant anxiety of another, the risk factors of cancer and stroke, would be a delightful thing to impose on a new being. And I should fucking be HAPPY about this?! Are you FUCKING SHITTING ME?

Sincerely, a disabled gay satanic furry - with another disabled sibling (let's do it again!) - who was raised straight and christian and then manipulated and controlled, who is already plagued with health concerns, mental health issues, and had their first stroke at 21 years old. Everybody should freely fuck, it's great!

(To say 'I wish I was never born' is such an understatement it's actually hilarious.)

[–] Orygin@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I don't have it as bad as you, but every day I wonder why my parents had me.
Except I know why, and it disgusts me. No consideration to what I would feel because they wanted another kid.

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Well, there was no way to ask you, right? Some people like their lives, perhaps they hoped you'd enjoy it?

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[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Win win win, I'd prevent my birth if I could

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[–] Deathray5@lemmynsfw.com 14 points 2 months ago

I don't necessarily think that comics that have toxic messages are inherently a problem.

I think a perfectly reasonable parent would relate to the comic at some point. Read as more of a vent post I get it. So long as it's recognised as a toxic perspective and is indulged as a temporary way to air their grievance in their own head I think it can be helpful

[–] thingAmaBob@lemmy.world 12 points 2 months ago

I mean, seems like these parents never wanted kids. It’s amazing how many pregnancies are accidental. I wonder how many would actually have children if everyone had 100% control over when to conceive.

[–] suite403@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

The guy miraculously cured male-pattern balding?

[–] tigeruppercut@lemmy.zip 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I think stress may be a factor in losing your hair

[–] suite403@lemmy.world 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Absolutely. But not male-pattern baldness.

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[–] hark@lemmy.world 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Kids cause pattern hair loss?

[–] racketlauncher831@lemmy.ml 16 points 2 months ago (18 children)
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[–] RymrgandsDaughter@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

Not me about to make a wish

[–] spicystraw@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago

I choose not to think to overthink this. Bringing up a kid has its rewards and as comic points out, sacrifices. Most parents gladly do whatever necessary so their kid has the best life in this world, and this comic just pokes fun of a phase of our life where we think more of our selves than what our parents offer up for us.

Bad taste? Sure, but sometimes bad jokes are the ones that get the point across and lit most discussion around the topic.

Just my 2 cents.

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Hairy arms liek a cactus on that guy...

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